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NancyBalik

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Since I am not going to transition (in this lifetime :)), and those who “know me” know my wife is “barely tolerant,” but not supportive, so please don’t respond to this post with surgical solutions. (In fact I’m not looking for any advice, just sharing — especially for those non-transitioners on the forum.) I don’t tuck every day, but a lot of days I do, even when underdressing and wearing my jeans and of course outwardly appearing “all male.” Why?
As silly as this might sound to some, it helps me “pretend” that they are not there. I generally use a medium firm girdle brief over my panties to hold things in place (there are some very pretty ones), and I just love the look and feel of a flat front. Plus, on those tucked days I obviously must forego any male privilege of standing at a urinal, so I am reminded that femininity comes with some costs :).
I have mentioned elsewhere that I have considerable genital dysphoria (and the flip side, vagina envy), so I don’t like seeing those parts and tucking helps the illusion. Am I kidding myself? Of course I know I am — just like when I insert my silicone forms in my bra. It’s the best I can do...helps me.... (And, btw, my wife has seen the “tucked me” plenty of times as I’m dressing or undressing. The only comments she tends to make are along the lines of “Isn’t that tight?” To which I respon, “A little, but I like it.”) Nancy
 

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Tucking has been a part of my coping with gender dysphoria since the beginning. I figured out how to do it on my own as a child. Like you, Nancy, genital stuff is the worst part of my gender dysphoria.

It was only a couple of months ago that my wife discovered that I tuck nearly all the time. Pretty weird that it took her 12 years to discover that, but I hid it well. It actually bothered her more than me growing breasts. She had a similar response as your wife's, wanting to know if it hurt, how do I pee, etc.

I prefer to be tucked and find it much more comfortable in spite of having things kind of squished. I hate the feeling of having everything out front.
 

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As a person who never had the need to tuck (what is not there does not require tucking), I am with your ladies, does that not hurt a lot?
And what is if you need an urgent run to the bathroom? Untucking the lot takes time, I assume. I sometimes have a hard time to get my panties down fast enough, but if I would need to unpack the bits, I sure would wet myself.

I admire your resolve!

Hugs
Linde
 

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Since I am not going to transition (in this lifetime :)), and those who “know me” know my wife is “barely tolerant,” but not supportive, so please don’t respond to this post with surgical solutions. (In fact I’m not looking for any advice, just sharing — especially for those non-transitioners on the forum.) I don’t tuck every day, but a lot of days I do, even when underdressing and wearing my jeans and of course outwardly appearing “all male.” Why?
As silly as this might sound to some, it helps me “pretend” that they are not there. I generally use a medium firm girdle brief over my panties to hold things in place (there are some very pretty ones), and I just love the look and feel of a flat front. Plus, on those tucked days I obviously must forego any male privilege of standing at a urinal, so I am reminded that femininity comes with some costs :).
I have mentioned elsewhere that I have considerable genital dysphoria (and the flip side, vagina envy), so I don’t like seeing those parts and tucking helps the illusion. Am I kidding myself? Of course I know I am — just like when I insert my silicone forms in my bra. It’s the best I can do...helps me.... (And, btw, my wife has seen the “tucked me” plenty of times as I’m dressing or undressing. The only comments she tends to make are along the lines of “Isn’t that tight?” To which I respon, “A little, but I like it.”) Nancy
I like tucking as well. It’s hard for me since I’m a gardener and am moving about all the time but I’m learning to adjust, haha. It makes me feel so feminine though so I put up with the hassle. I like the tightness too. And love how I look in yoga pants!
 

NancyBalik

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Linde, Have never had that sort of urinary urgency — maybe when I get older :)
 

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I tucked regularly since my mid 30’s (strangely, right after my first divorce) but about 15 years ago my T levels fell and everything shrunk over the years, negating the need to tuck or stand to pee! Different doctors have had different ideas about my hypogonadism, including that tucking may have caused it. I have not worn anything but female underwear this century, so tucking was a given, even though I was always small to begin with.

I’m not going to notice much different after my GRS in a month, but at least I will know there is nothing offensive hiding down there!

Hugs,

Allie
 

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Haven't tried to tuck since I was a teenager, but like you Allie, I will be glad when what little I have left is gone.

Hugs,
Mike
 
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