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Linde

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Hmmm.

Allie, I am resisting temptation to embellish this story. (I like your new photo btw!)

Bottom line is I left and made a run for the county line after curfew ;)

Such a rebel!
Oh, what a feeling!!!!!!

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I forgot to ask you about the band thing. You said something to me before about going down to play. I thought it was a while back so was this a second time?

Sounds like you had a good time.
 

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No this was it. I don't get down that way much.
It was a pretty good time.
Casual, practical experiment.
 

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"Sven" is tall, clean cut, pleasant nature. Over 60 but looks 45. He's a fireman, maintains the apts I live at, as well as a golf resort place in the area. Probably has a full-time job too.
"Harley" is my age, married, short, with health issues. Very nice guy. East coast accent which is comfortable to me to hear here. Here here.... He helps with keeping the public areas clean in the three buildings.

I've helped them clearing out units in the buildings here and am offering to help more with things that need doing.

Hoping for a good word for a job at the resort.

I am avoiding going with "Vern" to help him dig holes, blow up caves, and harrass people at the county parks, which he keeps inviting me to do. No thanks. He says he's going to set me up with a shortwave radio though.

Building a new history since my legalities changed. Establish a work record , even if part time, stash a little $, and then get out of here. To somewhere near a good electro.
 

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My mother and father are driving up to visit me today.
I'm making them lunch.
It's the first time they come to my home since I moved away from them in 1989.

I believe I've always had kind of a feminine look. Unfortunately for a long time I felt a need to cover that up by acting "rugged macho" for approval and safety. That is long gone now. I will try to be just be me, maybe toned back, no makeup. Maybe just a little makeup...No pink mini skirts. Relax and beyond that try not to act fake just so they forgive me.
They know everything about my HRT, legal changes, and reasons/direction for these . Because she asked. And I told.
It's sad for them, and worse, they have no grandchildren.
Just trying not to rub it in.

Made food last night. Better clean the floor now.
 

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Hope their visit goes well.
Just be yourself, you're a nice person.
 

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I moved to the WI side of the Upper Penninsula in autum of '78. It started freezing like hell early October, stopped middle of May and in between we had 12 feet of snow. Fond memories trying to clear the inch of ice from the inside of my bedroom window each morning and breaking girls frozen hair off on the bus plus trying not to inhale through the nose, because at -45° (excl. WCF) the nostrils would freeze shut quicker than you could exhale. - Truly, truly fond memories ... ;)

But I hear what you're saying and especially about this Wisconsin and Germany thing. It is dairy country after all and many there were originally from Germany, just as many in MN are originally from Finland, so it is cows=cows and lakes=lakes after all. I then moved to OK City for college (OU), which was a weird experience with dancing not allowed at all in many counties and with the OK City School Board just having voted down advances to have sex ed in their High Schools for the 19th time in a row.

I had this friend there, Cathy, we worked at a Pizza place together, who one day confessed to me, that Todd, her BF, had gotten her pregnant and she might as well go kill herself, being 16 and all. She meant it, the days WERE such! - So I got her a pregnancy test and then quietly arranged for an abortion at a TX clinic for her. Mind you I was 17 or perhaps 18 myself!

Three months later she is back telling me she is preggie again and when I got (a bit) mad and asked how on earth the had managed to do that, she started to cry and with tears flowing down her face said "Well, I figured you couldn't get pregnant if you did it standing up!" - I was so baffled, I started laughing. Poor girl, physics-savvy, but biology-hopeless as hell. This is where morons in office get you. Needless to say - this being Oklahoma - she was sent off to an unwed mothers home and Todd to an army-style "correction institute". I was the ONLY person to visit Cathy over the next 9 months and no, Todd was later NOT allowed to marry this mother of an illegitimate child! - It totally breaks my heart.

I then moved to Gulf Breeze on Pensacola Island for a bit over two years and people were really friendly there, but it was a private island with too much money abound and the friendliness was just like that, colloquial, not heartfelt. All I really remember from that time is racing my N2O direct injected twin turbo 454 aluminum block Datsun Z-car against Ferraris on the bridge (winning!), having a constant humidity rash on the insides of my legs, buckets full of Sangria and lots of body surfing. - Those must have been fun days, but probably not what got me where I am now ... :devilish:
Somewhere with a different dancing to booze ratio..
I have NEVER heard that saying before, totally cracked me up, LOL, gotta remember that one, thanks for it!
 

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I like to dance. and drink water. That's more my ratio.
Freeflowing or structured.
I have only led in partner dancing. Would like to be a follow. Definitely aspire to the attire. Swing salsa ballroom...these things are more plentious back in a metro. Hula belly, old lap stripper. In my mirrors with no competition I'm all the above. Get into the groove Madonna. Pay your way or stay away

Visit with my parents went wonderfully. Peaceful and happy. They are hurt by this life but they came to see me. We are all different people now, none of the same cells. I am starting to look different, even relaxed and not trying. Good to see and be seen.
 

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I am not so “forward” yet, but good to hear you are making some headway and are also seeing some “normalization” with your parents.

It is tue, one does become different people, and things should therefore become easier, but nothing truly breaks the parent-child bond, not even we ourselves, no matter how we try.

I so long to dance again, but am scared. I love classical dancing, and following as a 6’3 woman won’t be easy there, but then there is tango, which I adore, but where I was way to tall even as a man, what now ,,,, o_O
 

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Tonya, Joann, and Maddie went walking in the woods....

....down by the river.....

Strangers on the path speak of a teepee...

....we found it

Past the bulletholes....

...through the cave

What a day :)
 

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Thank you Marie. My relationship with them is definitely better lately. I think it's because we are all so different after the amount of time.

I read somewhere that the Dutch are the tallest people on average. Is that close to you? Maybe you will find tall dance partners there (Netherlands?)
 

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Tonya, Joann, and Maddie went walking in the woods....

....down by the river.....

Strangers on the path speak of a teepee...

....we found it

Past the bulletholes....

...through the cave

What a day :)

It was quite the fun day. I think the pictures turned out so well because you didn't know I was taking them.
Glad you posted them.

And thanks much for dinner. Ms. Maddie can cook, y'all.
 

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Thank you Marie. My relationship with them is definitely better lately. I think it's because we are all so different after the amount of time.

I read somewhere that the Dutch are the tallest people on average. Is that close to you? Maybe you will find tall dance partners there (Netherlands?)
I don't know about that Maddie. I am 1/2 Dutch, and lived the first part of my life right at the border to the Netherlands, and did go out there almost every weekend. But I was not that tall with my 6' 1", and most of the people there were either shorter or similar in size. It was no different to the German side of the border. I think most northern Europeans are rather tall.

I think it would be a pretty long drive for Marie to go there for a dance.
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Well, I could try to "dance over there", do the Cinderella thing and vanish at midnight. Should get me back home before sunrise (next day or two) ...
 

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Dick's divorce happened this past Friday via telecourt. He's older, was married 36 years, and has military pension involved. Noone helping him. I give a damn and offer to help people (like Dick) who do the same for others.
So I went to help him pack his place up. He had anticipated getting hit hard financially and is moving out of his rented house into his daughters unfinished basement.
I just like throwing shit haphazardly into boxes. For fun.
Dick's politics and religion are not mine. I respect his viewpoint due to his life experiences and respect he shows me Most of what he says is not verifiable. He even implied that I am on a path to being an abomination. Yes!
Despite this I strangely enjoy spending a little time with him. It's not an attraction thing for me...I don't think....the guy is a mess!! But he overall is pretty respectful of my status (minus the abomination thing ).

My neighbor Cole is mid 20s, slender, chef at some country club. Partier. Friendly. Not attracted to this boy either, but he invited me over (to see his new lights from Turkey...lol..). I have no restaurant experience but want to do some kind of white shirt black skirt waitress trip.. and he grew up in the biz and could help my path. I will be aware and safe. More later...
 

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But he overall is pretty respectful of my status (minus the abomination thing ).
Maddie, I’d sure like to see the maths on this subtraction. I mean ”respectful“ minus “abomination“ does sound like the result HAS to be negative, doesn’t it ... :mad:
 

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Maddie, my best friends, religious zealots, called me an abomination. That was the sudden end of our friendship!
How can you feel comfortable hanging out with a person calling you this terrible name?

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Poor Dick wasn't being hurtful. Legit concern. He was paraphrasing something from Deuteronomy and not well. I like men of conviction. It is possible that this friendship shall pass.

Maybe I could come back to Florida (or Germany) and hang with you instead!
 

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Poor Dick wasn't being hurtful. Legit concern. He was paraphrasing something from Deuteronomy and not well. I like men of conviction. It is possible that this friendship shall pass.

Maybe I could come back to Florida (or Germany) and hang with you instead!
Maddie, If you play your cards right, you could spend summers in Germany, and winters in Florida.

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