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Katie

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There was recently a series of comments on another thread about starting a weight loss support group. I'd like to know how many people want to do this. Also, what form the group should take. I am thinking that any threads that might contain weight loss images might be best placed in a special group that only members who ask for access will be able to view. That way nobody can jump on here from the general public and body shame anyone about images they post. Anybody want to add any thoughts or comments to this?
 

Linde

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Katie, I think the idea to make a special group up for us overweight ladies, is not a bad idea. This way we feel safe to put up pics that identify our problem areas.



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TonyaJanelle

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Hey @Katie

I put back on a few more pounds than I intended so would be interested in the group.

I had the same thoughts about pictures. From my experience they are good to take, though not necessary to share.

My first go round was just me and my brother so we shared numbers every month. The last one I put the pictures in and the coach had access to them and my numbers but no one else in the group did. I don't recall a lot of numbers being talked about on the group meetings.

It can be done without picture and number posting but if people are wanting to share them, a private thread would be best.
 

Kenna

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I'm definitely overweight and since the social lock-down and then my recent surgery, for which my surgeon asked me to stop exercising for a week either side, things have deteriorated even further! So while I'd be nervous, some explicit support and maybe even privately sharing photos might help. (I've previously posted about my paranoia of facial recognition bots.)
-Kenna
 

TonyaJanelle

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I'm definitely overweight and since the social lock-down and then my recent surgery, for which my surgeon asked me to stop exercising for a week either side, things have deteriorated even further! So while I'd be nervous, some explicit support and maybe even privately sharing photos might help. (I've previously posted about my paranoia of facial recognition bots.)
-Kenna

I've found it helpful to take pictures, but it's not necessary to post them.
The only person in the program I was in before that could see pics or even my actual weight numbers, was the "coach" a paid professional.
 

Katie

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For anyone who wishes to participate, there is no obligation to share anything that you are uncomfortable with. It's just a place to share successes, discuss what works, and encourage each other. If somebody wants to post photos and numbers, that is great if they find that to be motivating. If somebody values their privacy and does not want to share photos or numbers, that is also good. The purpose is not to create a competitive environment, but rather a supportive and encouraging group.
 

TonyaJanelle

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For anyone who wishes to participate, there is no obligation to share anything that you are uncomfortable with. It's just a place to share successes, discuss what works, and encourage each other. If somebody wants to post photos and numbers, that is great if they find that to be motivating. If somebody values their privacy and does not want to share photos or numbers, that is also good. The purpose is not to create a competitive environment, but rather a supportive and encouraging group.
Exactly.
Everyone goes at their own pace and has their own needs so we don't want anything to be mandatory. Others may be proud of their success and want to share.

Weigh in , literally and figuratively, at least once a week. Picture or number posting totally optional.
 

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Because of the "blessings" of estrogen or other hormones, I do not have the typical male body weight problems anymore, I have to learn to deal with the female ones these days. My upper torso looks OK enough that I am not afraid of running around in a bikini top through the world. And I for sure do not sport a "beer belly", the typical male signs of being overweight. My problem is that my waistline is non existent, and the ring around my middle is so well developed that even my "love handles" are part of it now.
On the other hand, the danger is that any loss of body fat means loss of the same amount of fat takes also place in the boobs nd the butt. I know that cis women have to deal with the same problems, and that is the reason that a gigantic weight-loss industry romisses all kind of wonder cures, which promis to lose weight only in the targeted problem areas. From the medical point of view, we know that this is not possible. If the body reduces stored fat, it reduces it all over the system, and sadly, the boobss and the but are part of it.
It is up to us, to decide how much we want to lose. Some of us, who plan to get surgery pretty soon, have to be down to a certain body mass index (BMI), when the docs look at us. It is not because of esthetics, but because of the fact that fatty tissue has poor blood supplies, and it thus heals poorly, and it is prone to infections, and not solidly enough for suturing it securely.

My current BMI is about 28, which is just at the edge to be allowed for surgery, but I would like to come down to at least 25, and If I am really good, down to 22. (I might not have any boobs left at that BMI).


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Donica

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I could certainly use this. I've been having trouble losing weight during the pandemic...... Who am I kidding, It's always been hard for me to lose weight.
 

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I have been naughty this year and put on over 20 pounds in comfort eating, but I now have a weight target pre op. I know I will get there as I have done it many times before, and that’s my problem, maintaining a healthy weight. I think this will be closely linked with reducing dysphoria, so that will be part of my weight management.

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Kenna

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For a few years I'd been fairly steady at around 90Kg, even after starting HRT in June last year but then over December and January it escalated to 94Kg which gave me a BMI of 30. Then, as I've discussed in another thread, I had a hair transplant and the surgeon asked me to stop exercise for a week either side. Added to this my son came from interstate to support me for a few days, and he is a great cook! Now, 6 days past surgery, I'm at 98Kg. Seven or eight years ago I was in the low 80's and had a goal of getting to 80Kg. That would be really healthy but its a long way there! Unfortunately I love both carbs and salt, and I don't have the excuse of spiro. (Outside the US most of the world uses a low dose of cyproterone acetate, which in my experience has zero side effects, other than being an excellent anti-androgen.)
 

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Kenna, i used to hang around 79 and 80 kg for a long time, and inched up to 90 ,and eventually to 94, when I put the gigantic brake on. I exercised daily by speed walking 5 miles, and I did calorie counting and all the fancy stuff getting weight down, and I was down to 80 kg again, and I had my orchi. I initially could not walk because of the surgery, and after that my pain thing started to slowly disable me, and my weight went up to 92 kg again. I am sitting here now with that weight, and want to get down to be able to wear my size 12 bottoms and my size 14 tops again!
I just know that a biological system fueled wit estrogen only, has a hard time to shed that weight!

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I've just had another challenge added to reducing weight.
I was anticipating that sometime later this year I'd have surgery to realign my little toe which sticks up above all the others so that in almost all reasonable looking sandals it sits above one of the straps and in many women's shoes (e.g.ballet flats) it pokes out as well. Then received a call offering to do the surgery next Tuesday! Normal walking will be impossible for several weeks and I've been told that I'll even have to keep my foot up for at least a week and a half, probably more. Almost total lack of aerobic exercise will mean severe restrictions to the amount I eat. :(
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Welcome in the club Kenna! I just had back surgery and hardly can move at all currently, but food still tastes pretty good to me! I have strict heavy moving restrictions for the next two month (and food still tastes as good).
I think heavy calorie reduction is the only way to go (Amber just made a batch of delicious frosted cinnamon rolls).

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Kenna

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Yes, one can't really describe food as an addiction, but there are some foods that I like more than I should and it's a struggle to limit them. For a little while at least I will also have the advantage of limited mobility as well, stopping me heading to the kitchen too often in order to indulge. I had surgery yesterday on the 4th and 5th toes of my right foot yesterday. The 4th was just crooked but the fifth poked up and went above the straps of many sandals and lower cut shoes. I'm trying to take the opportunity to develop better patterns.
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Yes, one can't really describe food as an addiction, but there are some foods that I like more than I should and it's a struggle to limit them. For a little while at least I will also have the advantage of limited mobility as well, stopping me heading to the kitchen too often in order to indulge. I had surgery yesterday on the 4th and 5th toes of my right foot yesterday. The 4th was just crooked but the fifth poked up and went above the straps of many sandals and lower cut shoes. I'm trying to take the opportunity to develop better patterns.
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-Kenna
I hope your surgery went well and your recovery is swift enough not to affect eating habits!!

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Linde

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Well kenna, for good healing you have to eat lots of quality protein, like nice steaks, etc. And sweet rolls, they add protein with all the butter contained in them!

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