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Saturnguy99

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I went through my life and realized I have been like this for a while, and may have been something that helped cause the divorces. I am trying to find a way to cross dress as a man with no one knowing. I got it, I have a hat, sunglasses and mask, I need long dress or stockings. That will help. I am ready to beat life down like it has beaten me.
 

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I went through my life and realized I have been like this for a while, and may have been something that helped cause the divorces. I am trying to find a way to cross dress as a man with no one knowing. I got it, I have a hat, sunglasses and mask, I need long dress or stockings. That will help. I am ready to beat life down like it has beaten me.
We can go shopping together> I think you have pretty much a similar size like.


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I need a cover up first. I mean cover my arm and leg hair. I do need a voice. Mine is deep. also cover my nose, as it is a bigger nose than usual. it is how people know my family. I am working on it.
 

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I need a cover up first. I mean cover my arm and leg hair. I do need a voice. Mine is deep. also cover my nose, as it is a bigger nose than usual. it is how people know my family. I am working on it.
We have to run around in masks anyway, nobody will see your nose, and we can whisper o each other, and I do the talking! Just get ready to get ready to feel more like a woman!

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I have a wine red skirt, but only goes down to just above the knees. I can do a long sleeve to cover my arms, but have to work on legs and shoes.
 

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I am resurrecting this topic because I know not everyone reads my blog. The site is growing which is great but there is so much to cover - which is also great. For those that don't know me I thought my post in my blog tonight might help - especially for those struggling. I hope it brings you something.


Thanks for your thoughts everybody. Well it's another late night of listening to old music. Stuff I haven't heard in years. Right now listening to Traffic. Looking up the guitar chords to Dixie Chicken etc.

As for my recent melancholy what I was talking about was feeling like a jerk if I come across as knowing everything which of course I don't. Many people had nice comments but @Confused = Mike's - hit home.

As some of you know MY biggest influence as a mentor early in my transition was 'Bad Tranny'. (Melissa ) She was not liked by everyone. Some people thought she was too tough. Not supportive enough.

But she asked me challenging questions. Why did I feel like I HAD to pass? Etc etc.

She helped me understand that the fear inside of us is because we have accepted the twisted views of many in our society that something is wrong with us. That we need to be changed.

I know there is nothing wrong with me nor with you. The only thing that is wrong is that we let the messages we have listened to our entire lives distort how we view ourselves.

I also know it is never my intent to truly 'preach' - it may come off that way but I want to help others shake off the repressive lessons they have learned their entire lives.

I spent an entire afternoon in Sacramento in a Mexican restaurant with BT in 2016 talking about these things and it helped me make major changes in my life.

If I can do half as much for somebody else as she did for me then it is worth it.

THE FIRST TRANSPHOBE YOU MUST CONQUER IS YOURSELF.

That does not mean you are a bigot. It means you have to overcome the crap you have absorbed and the embarrassment it brings.

I just need to catch my breath for a bit. I'm not done yet.
 

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@KimOct , there are so many people here with so much wisdom. Moni just has the right thing to say at the right time, Donica drops pearls of wisdom, Confused has a different perspective, and Baby Yoda is beginning to be a valuable source on her own. You are the voice of realism, getting people to shrug off fear, and accept themselves for who they truly are. None of us are going to be perfect, but we have to get on with life, so we may as well make the best of it. You have a solid role in this community, and we are all better off when you are feeling up to your soapbox!!

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Allie
 

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I know many people are afraid they will be rejected - shunned - laughed at if they transition. Well yeah maybe a few but I had such a fun lunch today with 3 cis-woman friends of mine today. It was so much fun. (I even forgot about the cortisone shots in my wrists this morning )

These 3 women would never hang out with me if I was some old DUDE - but now I am always invited. Two of them are my cohorts as the Hocus Pocus witches on Halloween. IT is getting crazy. We are building a float on the top of a trailer and a hubby is going to tow us around the neighborhood giving out candy. LOL. The pictures are going to be ridiculous and YES I will shame myself by sharing them here.

If you are worried about transition - you will keep many friends - the good ones. And you WILL make new ones too.
 
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