Surgery to come!

[SnowyArcticGirl]

Been a while since I posted. Well, later this month Ill be on my way to get a referral for GRS in Montreal. I couldn't imagine it will happen anytime soon sadly but it I am hoping by next February (2022) i'll be on my way. I cant say i'm nervous at all about going forward. I think any fear as well as excitement has kinda went away during this never ending transition that began years ago. I just feel the sense of determination ive felt ever since I first heard of it! For the ladies, how was it month or two before , during and a year after the surgery?

 

[OzGirl]

Good luck with your referral! I know the Canadian system is slow, but it will happen. I'm having my GRS in 46 hours! I'm not nearly as nervous as I thought I would be, as with all the pathology tests and visits to my surgeon, as well as normal life, it has been a really busy couple of months! I've had the other distractions like Christmas, and a new grandson, and it's only been in the last 2 days I have felt a slight nervous excitement starting.

I have been waiting for this for over 60 years, and I guess I also have the mindset that it's still not real, but I think my bowel flushing tomorrow will make it all too real! Once the healing is done, for many post op trans people, there is a feeling of what now? They have been on this journey for years, and have finally reached what many think is the summit, and all the hope and expectations have stopped. For me, I just want to settle to a dull and normal life as a woman, and not have to think about transition, but I know that won't happen for a while. I just want to be past the next week and home again!

Hugs,

Allie

 

[Linde]

Hello SnowyArcticGirl. I will b on the cutting table 17 days from now. I had an orchi several years ago, which means, my hormone level will not change after the surgery.
About 4 weeks ago I got vocal cord implants done, because I had developed a vocal cord paralysis. I was more nervous about that relatively short surgery than I am about SRS. I am pretty cool about SRS, I am just concerned that Covid-19 may get me before I get the surgery
My life will not change at all, because I live full time for several years already (and I am almost as long a legal female), and nobody ever asked what I have between my legs. I do not expect anybody to ask after the surgery The surgical team did set up already a post op meeting with a psychologist to help me to overcome any post surgery depression.
I consider my transition over since quite a while, and he surgery is only the last cleaning up rom my old male life. A need thing with my new designer voice, I am not able to speak in a low male frequency anymore, that part of male is gone from me for good already.

The only thing I am not sure about is what large goal I can strive for, after the last bit of my transition is over. SRS was always that final goal post, and that one will be gone in a very few weeks.

I have decent size naturally grown boobs, I think I look pretty OK, and I have a natural sounding female voice. There is nothing to do on the trans side anymore, and that is a funny feeling. I started this journey about 20 years ago, and all of a sudden, it is over. I have to get used to that one.

Hugs
LInde

 

[TonyaJanelle]

I managed to somehow sneak it in last July. I was more worried about COVID-19 cancellations than the surgery itself. No second thoughts, spent 50 years before transitioning with those.

 

[Katie]

Congratulations @SnowyArcticGirl . I'm sure February 2022 can't come fast enough.

 

[Madrhode]

It will fly by.

 

[Monica]

Been a while since I posted. Well, later this month Ill be on my way to get a referral for GRS in Montreal. I couldn't imagine it will happen anytime soon sadly but it I am hoping by next February (2022) i'll be on my way. I cant say i'm nervous at all about going forward. I think any fear as well as excitement has kinda went away during this never ending transition that began years ago. I just feel the sense of determination ive felt ever since I first heard of it! For the ladies, how was it month or two before , during and a year after the surgery?

I looked at it as a cool big adventure. I was determined to enjoy every minute I could of the whole experience. It was one of the best times of my life. Complications big and small can happen, but the surgery is actually a very safe procedure. Most complications are minor. Since the surgery, I've never had a second of regret. It isn't perfect down there, but no surgery is perfect. Actually, something to be aware of is post transition letdown. WE get so geared working toward getting to our finish line, when we get there, we have to find the next mountain to climb. It can be kind of a lost feeling going from striving for something to just living life. But we adjust. I'd do the surgery again in a heartbeat.

 

[Madrhode]

I looked at it as a cool big adventure. I was determined to enjoy every minute I could of the whole experience. It was one of the best times of my life. Complications big and small can happen, but the surgery is actually a very safe procedure. Most complications are minor. Since the surgery, I've never had a second of regret. It isn't perfect down there, but no surgery is perfect. Actually, something to be aware of is post transition letdown. WE get so geared working toward getting to our finish line, when we get there, we have to find the next mountain to climb. It can be kind of a lost feeling going from striving for something to just living life. But we adjust. I'd do the surgery again in a heartbeat.

I worry about this too, but I have a great therapist, and I think we will be working on this a lot.

 

[Monica]

People need a purpose, need to feel useful. I think it's just a matter of finding a new "special purpose" (The movie The Jerk, anyone?) I'm sure you will adjust Maddie! It's worth being aware of this 'other transition' in your life, the one of transitioning from transition.

 

[Madrhode]

People need a purpose, need to feel useful. I think it's just a matter of finding a new "special purpose" (The movie The Jerk, anyone?) I'm sure you will adjust Maddie! It's worth being aware of this 'other transition' in your life, the one of transitioning from transition.

Transition from transition, I love this...This speaks volumes!

 

[Linde]

IActually, something to be aware of is post transition letdown. WE get so geared working toward getting to our finish line, when we get there, we have to find the next mountain to climb. It can be kind of a lost feeling going from striving for something to just living life. But we adjust. I'd do the surgery again in a heartbeat.

I am concerned about that. I have arrived with my transition, and see no other gender goal in front of me anymore. I don't even have any excitement for a new female life, because I live as a female for so long now.
I have set up an appointment with a psychologist already, and also with my therapist to get me off of a possible letdown band wagen.


Hugs
LInde

 

[TonyaJanelle]

I think it's just a matter of finding a new "special purpose"

Westley:
Have you ever considered piracy? You'd make a wonderful Dread Pirate Roberts.

 

[Monica]

Warning adult humor in the clip below. Don't click if you are easily offended! Next gas station ten miles.

 

[Monica]

Half the battle with dealing with starting post transition is recognizing the possible lost feeling. Then you get creative to find a new special purpose and then do it every chance you can. Well, at least get excited about something new!

 

[KathyLauren]

Congratulations, @SnowyArcticGirl ! May the red tape turn into a red carpet, and may the months zip by quickly!