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considering the fact that i am living full time as a woman now for quite some time, and also have no problem anymore to be mis-gendered, I was wondering if I was right with my desire to simply disappear among the mass of other natal /cis women. This specifically once i had bottom surgery.
I also wondered if I should disclose my previous life as a male to any female, I would engage romantically with, after my surgery scars are healed out well. I discussed this with my therapist, and she is of the opinion I should not disclose this, because I have been a woman all my life, but had no chance to be one for most of my life. Now that I finally have reached my goal to be a woman through and through, it is of no use and benefit to anybody, to pull myself back into part of my former male life again, by telling anybody that I used to present as a male. I feel very comfortable with this, and I am sure it will protect me from possible attacks of TERFs.
over the last yer I had some online contacts with lesbians, and I was so honest to tell them about my past, and the stopped contacting me as soon as they found out about my former life. I don't like this feeling to be reduced to genitals, which are even the wrong ones for me. And once they are gone for good, I can life as he woman I was meant to be.
How do you ladies feel about this? Do you want to remain trans women for the rest of your life, or do you want to blend in with other cis women and be one of them?
Hugs
Linde
I also wondered if I should disclose my previous life as a male to any female, I would engage romantically with, after my surgery scars are healed out well. I discussed this with my therapist, and she is of the opinion I should not disclose this, because I have been a woman all my life, but had no chance to be one for most of my life. Now that I finally have reached my goal to be a woman through and through, it is of no use and benefit to anybody, to pull myself back into part of my former male life again, by telling anybody that I used to present as a male. I feel very comfortable with this, and I am sure it will protect me from possible attacks of TERFs.
over the last yer I had some online contacts with lesbians, and I was so honest to tell them about my past, and the stopped contacting me as soon as they found out about my former life. I don't like this feeling to be reduced to genitals, which are even the wrong ones for me. And once they are gone for good, I can life as he woman I was meant to be.
How do you ladies feel about this? Do you want to remain trans women for the rest of your life, or do you want to blend in with other cis women and be one of them?
Hugs
Linde