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Post operative life has been great for 23 years now

LisaAJ

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Post op life for me has been great for 23 years,My SRS.I still remember it and I was 19 when I had it done.My Uncle Bill and Aunt Sandra were there for me for support.I admit there was not going back with this decision.My uncle and aunt,they were ready to say goodbye to my old life and welcome in a much happier daughter.Before I was rolled into the operating room,both told me good luck and said goodbye to old life.We hugged and finally rolled me into the operating room put under not going back.4 hours later,Doctor told my aunt and uncle everything went well and have a new daughter now.They let me rest and came in the next day to visit.First thing I asked was is it gone and they told me yes now a young lady.A couple days later was the exciting part seeing the results.I was excited with tears of joy seeing my new vaginal opening.I was sore at first got out to walk and understood recovery process was going to take time.Plus I was shown how to dilate which I did for 3 months.The test was learning to urinate sitting down and got used to it.This went great.I did listen,dilated 3 times a day for an hour moving up.Good thing is I did find an OB/GYN doctor to check the results,she said everything looked good.My female friends,they wanted to see my results of my SRS.Closed the door in my room with them in there pulled my pants and panties down.They were amazed it looked like the real deal and saw I was much happier.What came out of me was my confidence,self esteem including my life back.Plus I could look in the mirrior in the bathroom naked for the first time.My aunt and uncle,they set up a party for my new life as female.Other family members,family friends and my friends were there seeing a whole complete happy me for the first time.Hugged me and told congrats on my new life as a post op female.I don't regret this at all to this day
 

Maybebaby56

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Post op life for me has been great for 23 years,My SRS.I still remember it and I was 19 when I had it done.My Uncle Bill and Aunt Sandra were there for me for support.I admit there was not going back with this decision.My uncle and aunt,they were ready to say goodbye to my old life and welcome in a much happier daughter.Before I was rolled into the operating room,both told me good luck and said goodbye to old life.We hugged and finally rolled me into the operating room put under not going back.4 hours later,Doctor told my aunt and uncle everything went well and have a new daughter now.They let me rest and came in the next day to visit.First thing I asked was is it gone and they told me yes now a young lady.A couple days later was the exciting part seeing the results.I was excited with tears of joy seeing my new vaginal opening.I was sore at first got out to walk and understood recovery process was going to take time.Plus I was shown how to dilate which I did for 3 months.The test was learning to urinate sitting down and got used to it.This went great.I did listen,dilated 3 times a day for an hour moving up.Good thing is I did find an OB/GYN doctor to check the results,she said everything looked good.My female friends,they wanted to see my results of my SRS.Closed the door in my room with them in there pulled my pants and panties down.They were amazed it looked like the real deal and saw I was much happier.What came out of me was my confidence,self esteem including my life back.Plus I could look in the mirrior in the bathroom naked for the first time.My aunt and uncle,they set up a party for my new life as female.Other family members,family friends and my friends were there seeing a whole complete happy me for the first time.Hugged me and told congrats on my new life as a post op female.I don't regret this at all to this day

Great story, Lisa. I would not even know where to begin 23 years ago. Who did your surgery? How did you find them? Hw did you pay for it? Sooo many questions. I had a hard time finding a trans-friendly OB/GYN even now, in the DC metro area.

I first had the opportunity to transition around 1981 when my father passed away, but I was pretty sure at that time I was the only person in the world who wanted to change their sex, and I was nothing more than a freak and a pervert. There certainly were no friends or family who would support me in such a journey, let alone medical or mental health professionals. I probably would not have had the courage even if there were.

First thing I asked was is it gone and they told me yes now a young lady.

Funny how that works, isn't it? Vagina = female. It really seems to come down to what's between your legs, rather than what's between your ears. The concept of gender identity is just too abstract for most people, and the idea that one's gender identity could not match one's biological sex is just incomprehensible.

I think it's fairly common even in the trans community to think that SRS puts the period at the end of the sentence. I know I thought that way. Vaginoplasty was the fucking Holy Grail. Not to say it doesn't make a huge difference, because it absolutely does if you have genital dysphoria, but what I discovered is while vaginoplasty was hugely validating as far as my sense of femininity, I am still trans. That part never seems to be far away, no matter how "normal" my life as a female has become. There are always reminders. My kids call me dad and refer to me as "he". Junk mail still shows up under my dead name four years after my name change. And then, of course, I am still going to doctors and surgeons to deal with medical issues.

congrats on my new life as a post op female.I don't regret this at all to this day

Indeed. Congrats, Lisa! Despite all the problems I have had I don't regret transitioning one bit. I am still amazed that I managed do it at all. How I found the strength and courage I'll never know.

So I will leave you with a question: why come to a trans forum after 23 years? I'm really interested in your answer.

With kindness,

Terri
 

LisaAJ

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The surgeon,I can't remember his name off of my head.He is deceased,died 3 years ago.I saved the money up paying for it
 

Linde

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Every case is different. My kids, biological and adopted use my first name, and don't call me dad or he. My ex and all relatives are on this, too.
The defining point for me was my orchi, because that was what changed my feelings and emotions being on female hormones only. The junk mail to the dead name has stopped about a year or so ago.
The only dead naming and wrong gendering I experienced last year, when I met an old friend who I had not seen for at least 15 years or so. He could not believe that it was me who sat across of him, but later he was able to manage the naming and gendering pretty well.

Trans is not very present in my life anymore, intersex is, because that is something I cannot change, and receive medical treatment for.

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Linde
 

Confused

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I was nothing more than a freak and a pervert.


Funny how that works, isn't it? Vagina = female. It really seems to come down to what's between your legs, rather than what's between your ears. The concept of gender identity is just too abstract for most people, and the idea that one's gender identity could not match one's biological sex is just incomprehensible.

I think these two concepts are hardwired into many cis-people's brain. Been my experience anyway.

As for the junk mail in a dead name, I think it is forever. My dad has been dead for 11 years and I still get mail for him.

Hugs,
Mike
 
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