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Monica

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Yes wise words
You have to seize opportunities when they come. I was so luckily I completely stopped my previous life and started a new one with anthony. I decide more or less everything I do now so I live every moment. And it’s a joy. ( high and lows are enjoyed as it’s me that’s living it with full emotional involvement ) Today is the start of your life
Talk about wise words! I love this.
 

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I don't understand how someone could get depressed after having their birth defect fixed after so many years. After mine gets fixed I don't think I'll ever be able to get depressed again...even if I try my hardest. ;)

So I'm right there with ya on the depression train of thought Allie. Good luck at your doctor's office.

Beware of "famous last words". That's what I thought too. It's amazing how a little complication can mess up those plans.

Here's to no complications!
 

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A big factor is also "What Now". We spend years emotionally invested in changing gender and for many the operation is the pinnacle, but they have never thought of life after. For me it is just living a normal sedate life with love and respect from others. It is important for us to give some thought to what our lives will be like post op so we don't get a bit lost at the time.

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Allie
Thank you for this point referring to life after GRS.

I expect my life to be similar to yours as assumed above.

I would hope in the months and years following to find more acquaintances at the least and hopefully true female friends.

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A big factor is also "What Now". We spend years emotionally invested in changing gender and for many the operation is the pinnacle,
The what now for me turned out to be boobs. Specifically my lacking in that area. It had been a concern before hand, but with the major problem solved, the lesser problem moved to front and center.
 

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Appearance is pretty important to me, so boobs will come before bottom surgery. At the moment I'm still in the recovery pause with my face, but will start seriously exploring possibilities for another one of my major career changes over the next few months, although I'm anticipating the next career/role will be less intense than previous ones.
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Appearance is pretty important to me, so boobs will come before bottom surgery. At the moment I'm still in the recovery pause with my face, but will start seriously exploring possibilities for another one of my major career changes over the next few months, although I'm anticipating the next career/role will be less intense than previous ones.
Cheers,
-Kenna
And great to see you have planned challenges for after your ops Kenna! Hope this phase is progressing faster now!

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Hi all, here I am in my hospital bed, trying to allocate the pain feelings to the appropriate body areas. Funny enough, my "penis shaft" hurts the most, and I know for sure that it is gone. My brain is pretty cofused about this. And I have no clue where they put these nerves now.

I seem to have a sudden emotional attitude change. As I told often enough that I want zero depth, I changed my decissin last week, and seem to sport now a 5" deep vagina canal. I hardly can wait to start dilation to experience the feeling of having an object inside my abdomen.
Might I even become interested in guys????
I never ever will say never anymore.



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10 to 1 odds on a big no there!
Hey, hey, don't destroy my dreams!
When I was laying awake most of the night last night, with my new parts sending clear pain signals from every corner, I started to think about how it would be with a man. It felt not to be impossible, as long as such a guy would be attractive for me. I think kissing would be harder than having intercourse?


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The what now for me turned out to be boobs. Specifically my lacking in that area. It had been a concern before hand, but with the major problem solved, the lesser problem moved to front and center.
I feel quite sure that this will happen to me post GRS also!

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Pamela xx
 

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Hey, hey, don't destroy my dreams!
When I was laying awake most of the night last night, with my new parts sending clear pain signals from every corner, I started to think about how it would be with a man. It felt not to be impossible, as long as such a guy would be attractive for me. I think kissing would be harder than having intercourse?


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Yes Obbewon, this one heals fast! Already making plans! j
 

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I think I am at the point that I can call myself postop?
Antway, between dosing off in my bed, and gulping down pain meds, I have a lot of time thinking, about what is next. I know that I am at the end of my tansition process, there is nothing I want or need to do anymore, to be the woman I want to be.
However, after my orchie a few years ago, I thought I was as female enough as one can be, because my endocrine system was switched over to female in iits entirety. What I did not realize that my emotions were not really there yet!
It took this surgery, to move the emotions, too.

And now I sit here wondering, how will my future be. As a woman. I think not much will change, but as an induvidual with now clearly defined female genitalia, what will be up for me?

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This is so like on my mind right now with being just over a month till my surgery. I hate having boobs I feel are too small and then the sea slug that the more hair I get removed the more I hate it. At the same time like I worry will I miss it. I have only known life with the lil ugly shit that am I capable of living with out it? I think I am but in the back of my mind I still hear my grandmother and aunt say you will regret it. I’m scared of that. Plus knowing that I will be alone in all this. Like I can not have any family either deceased or due to covid to be there when I wake sucks. I feel I’m am sliding into depression and it is going quickly. I see it at work. I used to look forward to work. Now I just want it done and be on my medical leave.
 

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This is so like on my mind right now with being just over a month till my surgery. I hate having boobs I feel are too small and then the sea slug that the more hair I get removed the more I hate it. At the same time like I worry will I miss it. I have only known life with the lil ugly shit that am I capable of living with out it? I think I am but in the back of my mind I still hear my grandmother and aunt say you will regret it. I’m scared of that. Plus knowing that I will be alone in all this. Like I can not have any family either deceased or due to covid to be there when I wake sucks. I feel I’m am sliding into depression and it is going quickly. I see it at work. I used to look forward to work. Now I just want it done and be on my medical leave.
You will not miss it. Don’t listen to those people who pronounce doom and gloom. It’s the start of a fabulous new life. All these people and friends can still fill the room with flowers. I’m sure we could all send them from all around the world. Tell us which hospital and dates etc etc to send to. I was lucky I had anthony there as I woke. He has bought all the daffodils in the shop
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You will not miss it. Don’t listen to those people who pronounce doom and gloom. It’s the start of a fabulous new life. All these people and friends can still fill the room with flowers. I’m sure we could all send them from all around the world. Tell us which hospital and dates etc etc to send to. I was lucky I had anthony there as I woke. He has bought all the daffodils in the shop
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I have a clitoris now and can still orgasm so that’s something to look forward to
 

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This is so like on my mind right now with being just over a month till my surgery. I hate having boobs I feel are too small and then the sea

slug that the more hair I get removed the more I hate it. At the same time like I worry will I miss it. I have only known life with the lil ugly shit that am I capable of living with out it? I think I am but in the back of my mind I still hear my grandmother and aunt say you will regret it. I’m scared of that. Plus knowing that I will be alone in all this. Like I can not have any family either deceased or due to covid to be there when I wake sucks. I feel I’m am sliding into depression and it is going quickly. I see it at work. I used to look forward to work. Now I just want it done and be on my medical leave.
Because of the covid restrictions, I woke up alone, too. But knowing that I was cleaned up down there was all the happy news I needed.
I am still in the hospital, but got the packing removed this morning. For the first time in my life I was able to feel the smoothness between my legs, and gliding very gently over the outer lops created a pleasant tickling feeling. I am not as black and blue and swollen, as l was afraid it would be .
I am happy that I arrived.


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Because of the covid restrictions, I woke up alone, too. But knowing that I was cleaned up down there was all the happy news I needed.
I am still in the hospital, but got the packing removed this morning. For the first time in my life I was able to feel the smoothness between my legs, and gliding very gently over the outer lops created a pleasant tickling feeling. I am not as black and blue and swollen, as l was afraid it would be .
I am happy that I arrived.


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I mean more hair removed the more I see the slug. Congrats Linde you have indeed arrived now it’s time to enjoy the scenery. I hope I am as happy as you are. I think I will be just so much right now but not having that thing will be a great boost I think.
 

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How soon did you stand up and start walking, Linde?.
 

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How soon did you stand up and start walking, Linde?.
I had my op on Saturday
On Sunday they removed the bandages had a look said that’s looks great fish net pants and pads and lots of blood
But walking to wc Sunday
Got up Monday make up on friends ce round party
Monday was a very good day
The lumps and bumps burst stitches etc all appear later ( I have some photo nasties of those) so rest rest rest but keep walking a bit ..... more tea waiter or perhaps a G&T?
 

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How soon did you stand up and start walking, Linde?.
About 2 hours after waking up from the anesthesia.
First just stsnding and a few steps inside the room, and the next days I walked about 2 miles each. One mile in the morning, one in the afternoon.
I want to be as fit and healthy as possible when I get out on Wednesday.

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