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Today was the day that I decided to disclose to my employer that I am transgender. Ever since I started with this company four years ago, I have felt that my national sales manager is the most trustworthy person I have ever met. I would trust him with my life and I wanted him to be the one that I told.

When I told him, he was shocked. He was supportive, but very shocked. He recommended that I contact HR before making a public announcement. So, I immediately sent an email to our HR director. She responded with a very encouraging message.

I still need to take the step of making a public announcement to the whole sales team. I am nervous, but I know it must happen.
 

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Congratulations Katie, so proud of you! Yes, no one expects that announcement. Shock isn't so bad as long as it brings support after.
 

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Congratulations Katie. You got this!

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Congratulations, Katie!
 

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Today was the day that I decided to disclose to my employer that I am transgender. Ever since I started with this company four years ago, I have felt that my national sales manager is the most trustworthy person I have ever met. I would trust him with my life and I wanted him to be the one that I told.

When I told him, he was shocked. He was supportive, but very shocked. He recommended that I contact HR before making a public announcement. So, I immediately sent an email to our HR director. She responded with a very encouraging message.

I still need to take the step of making a public announcement to the whole sales team. I am nervous, but I know it must happen.
They make it sound like it’s a deadly disease to be announced.
I think you should tell HR. Done. Then you can casually mention it openly to anybody within conversations as it’s not a big deal really. Play it down. You’ll make yourself nervous and everyone else will be worried. Blend it in. Word will get around quietly and they will go. Ok she’s a nice person and good at her job. That’s lovely.
 

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Melanie, I'm gonna give the flip side to this. I've seen it go very badly when a trans person allows someone else to spread their news. Even though it is nerve wracking and scary, controlling the delivery of your news is the best way to have success in my opinion. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done, but I stood in front of about 80 to 90 coworkers and told them my truth. People respected being told face to face. It is also harder for them to reject when they see someone they like, telling their story. HR can't personalize it in any way. Katie can let them know a bit of how hard this has been for her. Judging by the reactions I've seen, people respond when they know more of what drives us. In my case, I was very upfront with how much pain running from this caused me. The easier part of being upfront and telling in person is that much of the nervousness is out of the way for us the next time we interact with people. I suppose this is done on a zoom call these days, as Nicole will soon do.
 

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I am a remote employee, about 1200 miles from our headquarters. In a normal, non-covid year I would see my coworkers face to face maybe 2-3 times per year. It wouldn't be practical or realistic to make an announcement in person, so it will have to be via email.
 

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I came out to my colleagues during lockdown by using an email from my manager that I largely wrote but allowed him too slightly customize to his style and add his personal support. I followed up with my own brief email a couple of minutes later indicating that I'd be happy to discuss my transition with anyone and answer any questions. I received no negative responses and plenty of congratulations. Only one person, with whom I had a history of philosophical discussions, sought more information. While I didn't have customers, a similar email was sent out to professional stake-holders, again provoking a number of positive emails to me, and no negatives. Work continued with no noticeable changes in interactions other than, apart from a few innocent slips, the use of my correct name.
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I live in the country near a sleepy English village. I have met everyone slowly and every accepts me as me especially when I say where I live and they say oh near anthony yes I say I live with him oh how lovely they say. There has been only one exception on the evening I did the coffees at our village history society ( the role reserved only for women ) one person didn’t speak or look at me. I thought how sad there is a slightly disabled person perhaps autistic but no she didn’t like me. But no one else cared what she thought
Couple of years ago I started going to Zumba gold ( all women ) ( slower for oldies) and on the very first day on leaving someone said to me we go for coffee after do you want to come ? These have now become my 8 best friends that I meet every week on zoom for coffee and gossip
So you see people generally are good if your positive happy confident friendly honest. Snow today ( probably our only day )
 

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Is that the construction worker from the village people next to you, Melanie? Are you openly trans, @Melanierose , I forget?

PS. Nice to meet you on Zoom the other day.
 

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Is that the construction worker from the village people next to you, Melanie? Are you openly trans, @Melanierose , I forget?

PS. Nice to meet you on Zoom the other day.
No I’m a retired architect. Have lived full time for 5 1/2 years living with anthony my sort of husband and yes we live in a country village. Fully integrated into society and love it
 

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Today was the "big" announcement to all of my colleagues. The executive team and HR had been working with me for several days to prepare a message. The messages (mine and HR's) have been sent and I am pleased so far with the responses I have received.

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Brilliant news. your photo does you justice. You look nothing other than a woman
 

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Congratulations Katie! Another flower blooms in the TransRefuge garden!

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I remember telling my secretary what I was and she said “ yes I know “
 

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Outstanding @Katie. I love you HR department. Congratulations!!!
 

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Congratulations Katie!

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Congratulations Katie! 🤩🥳 It's a huge step in reducing the split.
All the best for continued progress on the domestic front!
Hugs!
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