No porn for me.

[RyleeSauce]

I wish I had 3 weeks straight where I didn’t see or hear something that impacts my mental health negatively.
TW- this bothered me immensely.

I do not watch pornography unless it somehow gets brought into my viewing area by someone else. That being said, I occasionally click on transgender sites simply to see what is happening from a modern aesthetic standpoint. I saw something that made me so depressed I cried. There was this pretty trans girl, with the cutest outfit, and the cutest braids. She was having sex with some dude. You could tell the guy had bad skin, bad posture, and was relatively toxic. He was probably someone not even in her league in my opinion. That being said, dude found it necessary to wear a mask when sleeping with her on film to conceal his identity in a trans film. Just done w this bullshit culture, and all the different sub genres of people that help perpetuate it. Here’s a selfie. It’s a shame that my future spouse will prolly have to wear a mask to hide from all the shame of being w me. If I even am lucky enough to find a compatible partner. Just why? Had the whole world gone mad or is it me that’s crazy?

 

[Monica]

You okay Sweetie?

 

[Donica]

I guess I'm not surprised the porn industry would produce something like that. Their ethics are sleazy as H.

 

[Abigail]

Hi Rylee,
Porn is not an accurate reflection of loving relationships, like marriage. It is where sex has taken center stage rather than compassion, love and respect. I just want to add that you seem like a self-respecting woman and therefore you are not likely to settle for a relationship that is only good behind closed doors. You're absolutely right that fetishizing is a problem but, that man carries all the shame, not her. He is the one who wants this experience but, fears being honest and open about his-self. You have every right to expect better and should not fear people like this man. They make their intentions and fears of being found out, known very quickly. Empowering ourselves to be confident, loving and worthy of respect is where real progress begins.

 

[Katie]

I don't like porn. I looked at it twice in my life and just couldn't get into it. Pictures and moving pictures do nothing for me. I need touch and physical contact to get me revved up. Porn just doesn't do it for me.

 

[OzGirl]

Porn and strippers have made for very uncomfortable times in my life. Trying my best to fit in with my male work colleagues in the truck and heavy equipment industry, I was exposed to porn and strippers at work functions. Being asexual, it did nothing for me, and being transgender, I identified with the girls who were being, in my mind, humiliated by servicing men. While all around me were whooping and making crude comments, I was cringing, but I had to lead these guys the next day, so I couldn't show what I was feeling. Being a non alcohol drinker made this all the harder. It was this environment which eventually made the industry intolerable for me, and I had to leave.

Hugs,

Allie

 

[Linde]

Porn has been in the world for as long as prostitution, which means, for ever. And there seems to be enough customers who like it (I know several natal women who like porn). It seems to be an important source of income for young trans women, who use it to earn money for their surgeries.
I consider porn to be very boring for me, but there are enough people who enjoy it. They are mostly men, because they react to this visual stimulation, while females don't mostly care, because it does not provide the mental stimulation they prefer. There is some porn that is specifically made for females (it helps to have a young female in the house to find out about those things), but it is mostly made to stimulate lesbian women.
I was lucky to work in an environment in which this subject was not talked about. and at the time, we developed boob implants, we had no idea that they would be used widely in the porn industry, or for anything else but helping women after a mastectomy.



Linde

 

[Delilah]

I wish I had 3 weeks straight where I didn’t see or hear something that impacts my mental health negatively.
TW- this bothered me immensely.

I do not watch pornography unless it somehow gets brought into my viewing area by someone else. That being said, I occasionally click on transgender sites simply to see what is happening from a modern aesthetic standpoint. I saw something that made me so depressed I cried. There was this pretty trans girl, with the cutest outfit, and the cutest braids. She was having sex with some dude. You could tell the guy had bad skin, bad posture, and was relatively toxic. He was probably someone not even in her league in my opinion. That being said, dude found it necessary to wear a mask when sleeping with her on film to conceal his identity in a trans film. Just done w this bullshit culture, and all the different sub genres of people that help perpetuate it. Here’s a selfie. It’s a shame that my future spouse will prolly have to wear a mask to hide from all the shame of being w me. If I even am lucky enough to find a compatible partner. Just why? Had the whole world gone mad or is it me that’s crazy?

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You are like me. I live in an Arab Muslim community that exposes a lot of pornographic matters. Many want me to harass because I am transgender.

 

[Delilah]

Porn has been in the world for as long as prostitution, which means, for ever. And there seems to be enough customers who like it (I know several natal women who like porn). It seems to be an important source of income for young trans women, who use it to earn money for their surgeries.
I consider porn to be very boring for me, but there are enough people who enjoy it. They are mostly men, because they react to this visual stimulation, while females don't mostly care, because it does not provide the mental stimulation they prefer. There is some porn that is specifically made for females (it helps to have a young female in the house to find out about those things), but it is mostly made to stimulate lesbian women.
I was lucky to work in an environment in which this subject was not talked about. and at the time, we developed boob implants, we had no idea that they would be used widely in the porn industry, or for anything else but helping women after a mastectomy.



Linde

Porn has been in the world for as long as prostitution, which means, for ever. And there seems to be enough customers who like it (I know several natal women who like porn). It seems to be an important source of income for young trans women, who use it to earn money for their surgeries.
I consider porn to be very boring for me, but there are enough people who enjoy it. They are mostly men, because they react to this visual stimulation, while females don't mostly care, because it does not provide the mental stimulation they prefer. There is some porn that is specifically made for females (it helps to have a young female in the house to find out about those things), but it is mostly made to stimulate lesbian women.
I was lucky to work in an environment in which this subject was not talked about. and at the time, we developed boob implants, we had no idea that they would be used widely in the porn industry, or for anything else but helping women after a mastectomy.



Linde

I work in a hotel that loves a transgender person in the act of prostitution, especially Arab women. If a transgender person finds the qualities of a woman and a man with us, this is why he asks a lot from a hotel

 

[KimOct]

I very rarely watch porn. Maybe a few hours my entire life if that. But to me this really isn't about porn per se. It is about the 'shame' of having sex with someone that is trans. We are gradually being tolerated by the rest of society but the thought of people being attracted to us is still some sort of fetish that is embarrassing if it is made public.

The reason that these feelings and beliefs still exist is due to the pervasive transphobia in our culture in our media and our politics. Men in a dress or a woman 'trapped' in a man's body are still considered to be funny. Dave Chappelle's humor about us is still considered funny.

There has been some progress but there is a long way to go.

It will be many decades (after I am long gone ) before sex with a transgender person is not taboo. We are nowhere near equality and wide acceptance but the glass half full is that at least we are beginning to be able to live as our true selves.

The mask in the aforementioned porn movie isn't about the movie being porn. It is about the need for a guy to wear a mask because they are having sex with a trans-woman and sadly that is something that most people are ashamed of.

And as I always talk about - it all goes back to internalized transphobia.

 

[Rachel]

When I first started Gender Therapy January 2013 my Gender Therapist would give me homework assignments. She taught sexuality at U of P. She one time had a porno assignment. There were thousands of 2 or 3 minute porno clips. All the clips were in categories. I was instructed to watch as many as I liked but no less than three.

The next week appointment she asked what categories I watched and how many clips. I said I watched three clips all from one category. She asked what category and I said trans woman having sex with men. She asked were all three from that category and I said yes. She then asked why I only watched three. I said I was curious how a post op trans woman would have sex with males. She said I am heterosexual.

The only other porn is on a TV at sex parties in the living room area of a suite of rooms. I glance over and see what is going on but it is all the same. I have a lot of sex and never really have any desire to watch porn. In the bedrooms we put on movies and never porn.

I went to two parties Friday afternoon and night. 8 hours of sex and I definitely question if I am heterosexual. I had sex with 4 or 5 females ( I am submissive ). I never go down on woman. Yet, I have 2 girlfriends that are dominant. I had sex with a lot of guys Friday night( all with protection and I take discovy). Both of my girlfriends are non-binary. One post and one pre. The woman I received sex from Friday used strap on's. DP was from my girlfriends with strap on's (for some reason a lot of guys watched). I honestly had no idea how good strap on's felt until this spring.

Come to think about it Friday night was like one 3 hour and one 5 hour porn movie. I definitely know how men and dominant woman have sex with a post op trans woman.

 

[Abigail]

I can't even remember the last time I had sex. It's always felt backwards by perspective and generally unremarkable. I have talked about that with my therapist some but, the idea of trying to find someone new to explore sexuality with is terrifying for me. If I watch porn at all, it's for a perspective that feels right. I get the most enjoyment from FPOV clips but, I don't think about watching these kinds of videos very often at all. As long as a person is engaging the act's they are comfortable with, I think sex is a great thing. I guess it's all about comfort zones and how honest everyone is about their desires.

 

[Linde]

I can pretty much remember, when I had my last sexual activity. This was a bit more than 20 years ago. This is fine with me, because I am between semi-sexual and and sapio-sexual, and I have no steady partner. I cannot comprehend the sexual activities Rachel describes a bit higher.
It is already quite a bit disturbing for me that I discovered that I have a bit of a bi leaning, because I always believed that I was a plain lesbian only.


Linde