Nicole’s neurotic Notebook
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Awesome! Having that right will make everything move forward now!
Having that amended line listing the birth name was quite the buzz kill. I would have paid the extra $40 it took to update gender marker just to remove that stupid line.
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Why is it so important to have the birth certificate changed?
I have my drivers license, my passport, social security and Medicare changed. I don't even bother with my naturalization certificate. They want to have $600 to change it.
I don't know what good it will do me. There is so much out there with my old name on that I can't change (all my patents, for one, my scientific papers, etc.) That one certificate makes no big difference for me.
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I have my drivers license, my passport, social security and Medicare changed. I don't even bother with my naturalization certificate. They want to have $600 to change it.
I don't know what good it will do me. There is so much out there with my old name on that I can't change (all my patents, for one, my scientific papers, etc.) That one certificate makes no big difference for me.
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Because I want a marriage not a gay marriage and in Texas if it it isn’t changed will recognize it as gay marriage and I also want my death certificate to show female and could say it based on birth male I don’t want to die a male and for me social card license passport and bc are what I feel are needed
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I didn't have to as my drivers license and passport already were. But should those ever lapse, I now have the proper birth certificate.
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Intresting reasons you mention here. I really don't care what my death certificate would say, because I am dead at that time, and I don't plan to marry anymore either.
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Thank you everyone...... it’s very exciting to have it. And I really love the fact that it doesn’t have a mended on it and it also doesn’t just list gender as “F”..... they actually print out female. The little things that mean something to me.
As for you linde. Your experience is much different than the one I’ve had to go through here in Texas. Without me changing my birth certificate, I can’t change anything else. My drivers license can’t be changed unless I get this birth certificate, along with this I also need my Social Security card updated. Every person from every background living in every different state has a different formula in order to make this work. This just happens to be mine.
In the end I don’t care .......it was extremely affirming to see that show up. It’s not about one document or even two it’s about the overall. I’ve grown my hair out long blonde. By itself it doesn’t mean heck of a lot. In combination with my pink fingernails, the make up I wear, the changes in my body, the clothes and in the voice I attempt do use each day. All of this together helps to make me feel like the woman that I am.
I don’t look at the few things that may still come in and under my name. I don’t look at the mis gendering that I still get from my voice. I try to look at all the positive good things because that’s what counts. I share this exciting news with everyone here because without this forum, I would not be here, this blog would no longer exist.
Ok my lunch break is over. I got to update my blog and ramble on about our donations. (Very spur of the moment thing didn’t plan that one.... it’s OK y’all know I’m crazy).
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As for you linde. Your experience is much different than the one I’ve had to go through here in Texas. Without me changing my birth certificate, I can’t change anything else. My drivers license can’t be changed unless I get this birth certificate, along with this I also need my Social Security card updated. Every person from every background living in every different state has a different formula in order to make this work. This just happens to be mine.
In the end I don’t care .......it was extremely affirming to see that show up. It’s not about one document or even two it’s about the overall. I’ve grown my hair out long blonde. By itself it doesn’t mean heck of a lot. In combination with my pink fingernails, the make up I wear, the changes in my body, the clothes and in the voice I attempt do use each day. All of this together helps to make me feel like the woman that I am.
I don’t look at the few things that may still come in and under my name. I don’t look at the mis gendering that I still get from my voice. I try to look at all the positive good things because that’s what counts. I share this exciting news with everyone here because without this forum, I would not be here, this blog would no longer exist.
Ok my lunch break is over. I got to update my blog and ramble on about our donations. (Very spur of the moment thing didn’t plan that one.... it’s OK y’all know I’m crazy).
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Congratulations Nicole!
My situation is more like Linde's. The only time I've had to use my birth certificate in nearly 5 decades was when I applied for a new passport more than a decade after the old one had expired. I'll update my current passport when my face has settled after my rhinoplasty and for that I'll only need the name change certificate (which I have - and which doesn't mention gender) and the brief form letter from my doctor (of which I have several copies) notifying the change of gender. This is all I needed for my Medicare card and driver's licence which has such a low resolution photo that it doesn't matter much. In Australia the courts aren't involved at all.
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My situation is more like Linde's. The only time I've had to use my birth certificate in nearly 5 decades was when I applied for a new passport more than a decade after the old one had expired. I'll update my current passport when my face has settled after my rhinoplasty and for that I'll only need the name change certificate (which I have - and which doesn't mention gender) and the brief form letter from my doctor (of which I have several copies) notifying the change of gender. This is all I needed for my Medicare card and driver's licence which has such a low resolution photo that it doesn't matter much. In Australia the courts aren't involved at all.
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Super long day at work. How to get up early tomorrow too. So it was quite the nice surprise when I came home and check my mail. I just got my new Social Security card also. Yay.......
In the state of Texas this is where a transgender person yells out “bingo “or “checkmate “ or “Yatzy “ or “Gooooooooooooooal.....”. .......ect......what it basically does is allow me to now go to get my drivers license finally flipped.
Don’t get me wrong , I love getting all of these documents in, it helps boost the affirmation of me.
In truth though it’s a means to an end. When I finally get my drivers license official. I can change absolutely everything from credit cards to my bank account and anything else I need. Now I just have to try to find the time to get to Department of Highway patrol or whatever the heck they call it here in Texas. COVID-19 has moved them to a extremely slow pace. This will be something that I need to actually have an appointment for. I’ll be diving back into that idea tomorrow. I think I need to go find my bed. This girl is quite tired.
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In the state of Texas this is where a transgender person yells out “bingo “or “checkmate “ or “Yatzy “ or “Gooooooooooooooal.....”. .......ect......what it basically does is allow me to now go to get my drivers license finally flipped.
Don’t get me wrong , I love getting all of these documents in, it helps boost the affirmation of me.
In truth though it’s a means to an end. When I finally get my drivers license official. I can change absolutely everything from credit cards to my bank account and anything else I need. Now I just have to try to find the time to get to Department of Highway patrol or whatever the heck they call it here in Texas. COVID-19 has moved them to a extremely slow pace. This will be something that I need to actually have an appointment for. I’ll be diving back into that idea tomorrow. I think I need to go find my bed. This girl is quite tired.
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Thank you... @Kenna .. @Madrhode ... @Donica .......
Things are flying fast and furious. This is actually quite exciting. So as I said I now have the birth certificate and Social Security card the next big deal, is getting my drivers license in the state of Texas. Now that I have the proper paperwork it should be easier right?..... not exactly I have to get an appointment with COVID-19 protocols at any department of public safety throughout the state of Texas.
I went on their website today to get an appointment. everything is booked out in my area of Central Texas through May and June of this year. Dallas area the same. I checked everything down in Austin, a little bit better best I can get there was April 22. San Antonio area was June. Houston area was into May I tried getting an appointment every small little town Department of Public safety throughout the state of Texas.
Then....... I got lucky. An appointment popped up out of the blue on March 8th. I have to drive down to the Bryan/College Station area. basically we’re Texas A&M is. It’s about an hour and a half from me. So in the middle of a Monday, I will work the morning, then drive an hour and a half, for a half hour appointment, to only drive another hour and a half back ..........and then finish up my workday. Should be fun. The good news is when I’m done, I’ll have an official license and the key to flipping every single thing I have in my old name.
it’s going to be an interesting March for me. Finishing up my official paperwork, kicking off termite season at work, and dealing with the anniversary of the day I lost Jennifer. @Madrhode also gets her confirmation in less than a week. I guess that’s my next big battle. My insurance company. Grrrrrrrrr.......
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( cool I just got my business cards finally for work)
Things are flying fast and furious. This is actually quite exciting. So as I said I now have the birth certificate and Social Security card the next big deal, is getting my drivers license in the state of Texas. Now that I have the proper paperwork it should be easier right?..... not exactly I have to get an appointment with COVID-19 protocols at any department of public safety throughout the state of Texas.
I went on their website today to get an appointment. everything is booked out in my area of Central Texas through May and June of this year. Dallas area the same. I checked everything down in Austin, a little bit better best I can get there was April 22. San Antonio area was June. Houston area was into May I tried getting an appointment every small little town Department of Public safety throughout the state of Texas.
Then....... I got lucky. An appointment popped up out of the blue on March 8th. I have to drive down to the Bryan/College Station area. basically we’re Texas A&M is. It’s about an hour and a half from me. So in the middle of a Monday, I will work the morning, then drive an hour and a half, for a half hour appointment, to only drive another hour and a half back ..........and then finish up my workday. Should be fun. The good news is when I’m done, I’ll have an official license and the key to flipping every single thing I have in my old name.
it’s going to be an interesting March for me. Finishing up my official paperwork, kicking off termite season at work, and dealing with the anniversary of the day I lost Jennifer. @Madrhode also gets her confirmation in less than a week. I guess that’s my next big battle. My insurance company. Grrrrrrrrr.......
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Nicole
( cool I just got my business cards finally for work)
