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Linde

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You might become a relative of the new man of my ex. He is C. Donaly, and I like him a lot, and I like you a lot.


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So, is that your maiden name or your married name? It occurs to me you may gets some comments about your parents giving you a rhythmic name. I do like it though! I have one question myself. Is it usually spelled Donnelly? Will that be a source of questions? More to the point, do you care if the name draws any attention or not? Just thinkin out loud!
 

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That's a wonderful name Ms. Donna Donaly!
 

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So, is that your maiden name or your married name? It occurs to me you may gets some comments about your parents giving you a rhythmic name. I do like it though! I have one question myself. Is it usually spelled Donnelly? Will that be a source of questions? More to the point, do you care if the name draws any attention or not? Just thinkin out loud!
Monica Im not sure about your question. I never liked the last name I was born with as it can be pronounced so many different ways and no one ever got it the way my father said it should be pronounced. Even both his two brothers, my uncles pronounced it differently so there was no agreement as it was a Polish name that dd not convert to English with sounds not in the English language.

So I guess I can call it my maiden name since as of May 13th I am no longer married, and yes the divorce went very well, it took every bit of 4 minutes of a Zoom court session to dissolve a 36 year marriage and it was a tough day for me.

Monica yes I have seen the name Donnelly and Donaly is a simplified version and why not, I can do anything I want at this point. If there are questions from the people I am stealth with I can tell them it's my maiden name or the semi truth that I never liked my maiden name and got it changed with the divorce.

One of the questions that the judge asked my wife was did she want to change her last name and interestingly she did not propably because she would rather be regarded as a widow rather than divorced. In any event its that easy once you are in court for women.

I don't really care if the name draws attention and actually since it's common for women to change their name after a divirce, and all my new friends knew I was getting a divorce, it only reinforces the fact that I am a woman.

While I am at it I have to tell everyone that I am going to get my birth certificate changed for name and gender. I wrote the PhD doctor of psychology at the VA that I did counseling with that I needed a letter from a medicle doctor that I am being treated for gender transition and she talked to my primary care doctor at the clinic, whom I had just spent a half hour with that very day on other medical issues, he is not the endocrinologist, and he agreed to write the letter from the sample letter I sent them, so that was SO easy.

Again I am so lucky again as I am for having everyone here at Transrefuge. Thank you for all the "likes".

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my inner geek is saying Donna Noble like the character from Doctor Who
Nice try Sam, but there is no ryme to it.

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You might become a relative of the new man of my ex. He is C. Donaly, and I like him a lot, and I like you a lot.


Linde
Thanks Linde, I like you a lot too and need you to be my good friend and with you comes Amber, and we have become such good girl friends.

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I don't really care if the name draws attention and actually since it's common for women to change their name after a divirce, and all my new friends knew I was getting a divorce, it only reinforces the fact that I am a woman.
Don't worry Donna, this answers my question. If attention is not something that worries you, the only limit to your choice is your likes or dislikes. I think you made a fine choice and I like your logic behind it. I might have been channeling my late father or at least had him in the back of my mind. When I named my son, he told me not to give him a name that would cause him unwanted attention (not that yours does). My last name is a literal name, uh, like 'Carpenter.' I thought I was in the clear when I named my first born Adam. LOL First thing he says is, "Oh great, 'A damn' (lastname)." It made me laugh, but no one ever even thought of that ever. Enjoy Ms. Donaly and thanks for sharing your process with us.
 

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The funniest true story of name changes that I know of came from a secretary/receptionist who worked with me many years ago who's surname was Over. She explained how she and her husband called their daughter Cassandra. That was fine until the first day of school (in Australia the initial intake level was called kindergarten) where the teachers had pasted all the kids' names in big letters across the front wall, including "Cassan Over". The next day it was "Jane Over".
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The funniest true story of name changes that I know of came from a secretary/receptionist who worked with me many years ago who's surname was Over. She explained how she and her husband called their daughter Cassandra. That was fine until the first day of school (in Australia the initial intake level was called kindergarten) where the teachers had pasted all the kids' names in big letters across the front wall, including "Cassan Over". The next day it was "Jane Over".
-Kenna
FUNNY😁
 

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I am not good at an English name, but I want to change my name. I also want you my family to choose a name for me by voting for me for a name
 

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I am not good at an English name, but I want to change my name. I also want you my family to choose a name for me by voting for me for a name
Do you have any ideas of what type of last name you want? What letter to start with or end with? Long or short? Any other preferences? :)
 

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Do you have any ideas of what type of last name you want? What letter to start with or end with? Long or short? Any other preferences? :)
Thank you for your kindness. I am an Arab girl. I want a name that expresses love and life. I also want it to express a personality that was amazing, as well as I want easy pronunciation, as well as I mean I want to express what is in myself of romance buried inside me because I am an Arab girl.

 

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Don't worry Donna, this answers my question. If attention is not something that worries you, the only limit to your choice is your likes or dislikes. I think you made a fine choice and I like your logic behind it. I might have been channeling my late father or at least had him in the back of my mind. When I named my son, he told me not to give him a name that would cause him unwanted attention (not that yours does). My last name is a literal name, uh, like 'Carpenter.' I thought I was in the clear when I named my first born Adam. LOL First thing he says is, "Oh great, 'A damn' (lastname)." It made me laugh, but no one ever even thought of that ever. Enjoy Ms. Donaly and thanks for sharing your process with us.

So I decided on a middle name too.
Donna Lynn Donaly.........how does that sound?

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So I decided on a middle name too.
Donna Lynn Donaly.........how does that sound?

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I like it! It poetically rolls off the tongue. Ms. Donna Lynn Donaly.
 

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I like it! A common female middle name is Lee. I'm glad that you don't pick that. Yours is classy.
 

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I like it! It poetically rolls off the tongue. Ms. Donna Lynn Donaly.
Thanks Donica, your opinion is valuable to me and makes me surer of my decision. I could even tell people my name is Donna Lynn! They go together well.

Donna Lynn (3 syllables) Donaly (3 syllables)

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I like it! A common female middle name is Lee. I'm glad that you don't pick that. Yours is classy.
Thanks Monica, I like classy!

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