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Katie

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Back when I first started growing my hair out, I wanted to learn how to properly care for my hair. In my male socialization, I was never taught anything about haircare besides shampooing and brushing it.

On the conditioner bottle that I use, I think it states to leave it in for two minutes. I leave it in much longer. My shower routine is to first shampoo my hair. Then I will exfoliate my face (makes shaving better). Then I put the conditioner in, working it in thoroughly. I leave it in through the rest of my shower, being careful not to spray water on it. I do the rest of my shower routine, washing my body, and I am weird because I also shave and brush my teeth in the shower. After everything else is done I rinse the excess conditioner out of my hair. Then dry and style as desired.

This routine works very well for me. My aunt, who is a hairstylist, always comments on how healthy my hair looks.

I found this video that covers a lot of the same points. The only thing I don't do is turn down the water temperature, since I don't run my shower really hot anyway.

 

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It also depends on the kind of hair you have. I have very fine individual hair, and when it is wet from washing, I can't get it hanging down like this lady in the video does. I have a special comb, and try to comb it down a little. I put conditioner on, and use the comb again to spread that stuff around as much as I can. I finish my other washing routine, and shower the conditioner out again. It also moisturizes the rest of my body nicely, when running off over my skin. I comb the hair through again, to get it nice and soft. For drying I just get the major water out, comb it into the way I want it, and allow my hair to air dry. This gives my hair nice volume.

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I usually rinse with cool at the end too. Family in the hair biz taught me that trick :)
And I don't put heat to my hair.
My hair is thirsty so I put a little something in it almost everyday. Oil or curl creme. Conditioner maybe 3/week....
How often do you condition?
 

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@Maddie

I condition during every shower. Is that too often?
No, it is not, When your hair is wet, you can either use leave in conditioner, or the rinse out stuff.

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Depends on the state of your hair Lexxi. Sometimes it needs a break from all that.

My hair is dry and thirsty. I used to condition it every day and leave it in (yuck). Now I'm shampooing (followed by conditioner) maybe once per week. But doing the shower conditioner thing every 2nd or 3rd day. Been putting my hair up in a loose bun for sleeping, which I think helps cut back on how much I need to add product to tame the frizz.
My hair is one type though. That's mostly all I know about. Other hair types might require less often (straighter or oily), or more often (if really dry or extra super kinky curls.)

I only detangle my hair while it's at least a little wet. Gently, now....
 
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TonyaJanelle

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interesting. I've been using only conditioner, no shampoo mostly. Conditioners do have some cleansing action. I use the conditioner first, do the rest of the shower and body shaving then rinse out my hair. . I'll have to try out a cool rinse though.
 

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I used to only wash and condition it about every five days. But I have since joined the YMCA and I have to wash the chlorine out of it every time, and then I add conditioner too. I love how smooth it makes my hair feel. I usually have frizzy or maybe flyaway hair (really puffy and hard to control) unless I put something in it. So a lot of times I'll put in a leave-in conditioner.

This week I've been using something called Bed Head that leaves my hair looking wet and it really controls the hair...as long as I don't brush it after it dries. If I do then all bets are off and my hair will fly however it feels like flying, lol.
 

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Anti chlorine conditioning :)

I used to swim laps at the YMCA. was heading towards lifeguard certification.
Can't imagine going back at this point considering ID and HRT changes and lack of surgical changes.
Sorry Lexxi I have to ask
How is that working out for you?
What locker room and swimsuit do you go by??
 

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Yeah, I am not ready to present as female at my Y's swimming pool, but my chest is pretty hard to hide now. I think I am done swimming in public pools until I can present full time as female. Maybe even then I will still wait for GCS. Even when tucked, it might be challenging to keep my lower anatomy hidden when walking to and from the pool and undressing in the locker room.
 

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Yeah, I am not ready to present as female at my Y's swimming pool, but my chest is pretty hard to hide now. I think I am done swimming in public pools until I can present full time as female. Maybe even then I will still wait for GCS. Even when tucked, it might be challenging to keep my lower anatomy hidden when walking to and from the pool and undressing in the locker room.
If you ever get an orchi first, you should not have to hide much anymore. I can wear any swimsuit for about two years now. Not much left, and thus not much to hide.
I am at the beach all the time, never had any funny looks at my lower parts.

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