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KathyLauren

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It is good to see quite a few familiar names here.

So my biography...  I was born in 1954, and was immediately assigned 'male', based on insufficient evidence.  My first trans memory, though I didn't understand it at the time, was, at age 7, looking at a picture of a pretty girl and wishing I was her. 

I always had a feminine streak.  I got my mother to teach me to bake cookies, and how to follow a recipe in general.  She sewed a lot of her own clothes, and I always "helped" (i.e. watched) her.  To this day, I do the sewing in our house.  When I was in my thirties, I asked her to teach me to knit.

My teenage years were mostly un-memorable.  I didn't socialize, and had very few friends.  I was the kid who was picked last for team sports, and the one who was always picked on.  That culminated in being sexually assaulted when I was in high school.  I compensated by getting good grades.

I tried to observe how boys acted and tried to emulate them.  I couldn't understand why it seemed to come so easily for them, but always remained a mystery to me.

After university (Computer Science, of course), I joined the RCAF, learned to fly, and then taught flying.  It was a ton of fun, but I still had no social life.  I lived in fear of my fellow pilots finding out that I was still a virgin.  After I got out of the air force, I went into IT and stuck with that career until I retired a few years ago. 

I remained single for a long time, which allowed me to experiment with cross-dressing.  I found that I really liked it.  When I realized that it was not all about eroticism, I started to realize that there was something going on.  I just felt more comfortable, more myself, when dressed.  I didn't figure it out, though.

Meanwhile, my regular male life carried on.  I eventually met and married my wife.  Of course, the women's clothes had to go.  I was fixed, and whatever was "wrong" with me was gone.  (I thought, hopefully.)  Though the urge to dress remained very strong, and gradually got stronger.

In 2015, I attended a scientific conference.  The keynote talk was given by a scientist who appeared to me to be a trans woman.  That caught my interest, because over the years, I had wondered if perhaps I was trans, a thought that I always quickly squelched.  This was the first time I had encountered a trans person in real life, and I was curious how she would be received.  I paid close attention to the remarks from audience members after the talk.  Everyone was talking about her subject matter, and how interesting the talk had been.  There was not a single comment about her personally.  This opened my eyes to the fact that a trans person (me, perhaps??) could possibly survive being out.

It took my about six months of investigation to conclude that I was absolutely, positively transgender.  And it took another six months to work up the nerve to tell my wife.  She was immediately supportive!  I started seeing a therapist, got my letter to start hormones, and my transition was under way.

I have been on HRT for three years, and full-time for just a few months less than that.  My next milestone is GRS in March.

Kathy
 

Linde

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Welcome here Kathy, and I hope that i can follow your GRS surgery very fast!

Have a Merry Christmas

Linde
 

OzGirl

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Welcome Kathy, so good to see so many wonderful people here!

Allie
 

Laurie

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Hi Kathy,

  Good to see you here to join the party.

Hugs,
  Laurie
 

KathyLauren

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Hi, Laurie.  Thanks for the invitation!
 

Lexxi

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Hi Kathy,

I'm so glad to see you here. I really enjoyed your introduction. I had some of the same experiences growing up, especially the cooking and sewing part. I had my mom show me how to cook all of her best recipes, and I still cook them the same way all these years later. I got really good at perfecting them. In fact my brother and my sister-in-law are jealous of my skills. They've both tried to make some of mom's recipes...but they can't get it right. They asked me to come up to their house one day and show them, lol.

As for sewing, well I'm not as good at that. But I can darn small holes and rips to an acceptable level. I always thought sewing is kind of a lost art. It doesn't seem like anyone knows how to repair anything anymore.

Again welcome to the site. I hope you and your family are having a wonderful Christmas!!

xoxo
Lexxi
 

Katie

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Hi, [member=34]KathyLauren[/member] ,I'm really glad you found us!
 
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