General Tips for Passing - FtM

[Ryan]

Clothing

• Don't buy clothes that are 2x times too big. You may think they'll help you pass, but it only looks like you're playing dress-up in your dad's or boyfriend's clothes. Find fitted, but loose clothing. If clothes in the men's section are too big, look in the boys' section. Most of the time you'll find very similar clothes without looking like you're playing dress-up.
  • Tailoring clothing is another option if the boys' clothes are too childish or you need a more professional/mature look.

Headwear/Hairstyles

• Most of the time you can get away with wearing a hat to hide long hair, but you can't wear a hat 24/7. Finding a hairstyle that suits you face without accentuating softer feature will help you pass. Not all hairstyles work for everyone, and you may have to ask barbers to see what they recommend (or don't recommend if you're not out). Pixie cuts also work for guys who are in the closet, but you may have to find a way to style it differently.
  • Googling pictures of men's hairstyles or looking in books or magazines will also give you an idea of what's trending.

Presentation as a Whole

• The biggest thing is walking with confidence, and taking up space. Don't be a douche about it, but walk with a purpose, even if you have no purpose.
• When walking, imagine there's a line in front of you, and you have to take your steps on either side of that line. Whereas women, would want to walk ON the line (like a tightrope), men walk on either side of the line.

 

[Monica]

• The biggest thing is walking with confidence, and taking up space. Don't be a douche about it, but walk with a purpose, even if you have no purpose.
• When walking, imagine there's a line in front of you, and you have to take your steps on either side of that line. Whereas women, would want to walk ON the line (like a tightrope), men walk on either side of the line.

A bit of swagger, right? Excellent description Dylan!

 

[Linde]

A bit of swagger, right? Excellent description Dylan!

I was always told that I walk like a girl, I never knew why?

@Moni, your new avatar looks great, you can smile if you want to do it!


Hugs
Linde

 

[Maverick]

Exellent post Dylan. I’ve tried to explain the oversize clothing part to people. But they are too involved in hiding their chest. I have a DD cup. I have been gendered correct without a bra and with bra and with binder. It’s more to it than moobs.

If you have wide hips, it’s better to fool the eye with contrasts, like different types of stripes or colour on the cloths than buying a tent.


Tony

 

[sam]

i know what you mean about oversized clothes but i have autism, which gives me really bad sensory issues (i am 5 foot tall and sometimes the 4xl tshirts i wear feel like they are crushing me, i wear 3xl shorts,jumpers and shirts) and also cerebral palsy and functional neurological dysorder so physically getting in and out of clothes is fifficult.

 

[Linde]

i know what you mean about oversized clothes but i have autism, which gives me really bad sensory issues (i am 5 foot tall and sometimes the 4xl tshirts i wear feel like they are crushing me, i wear 3xl shorts,jumpers and shirts) and also cerebral palsy and functional neurological dysorder so physically getting in and out of clothes is fifficult.

Welcome in he autism club! But let me tell you, if you wear way to baggy clothing makes people look at you and try to clock you. Just try to look like the average Joe around the corner to blend in as much as possible.

The clocking problem is the same for trans guys or trans women. We all have to look as standard as possible.

Hugs
Linde

 

[sam]

Welcome in he autism club! But let me tell you, if you wear way to baggy clothing makes people look at you and try to clock you. Just try to look like the average Joe around the corner to blend in as much as possible.

The clocking problem is the same for trans guys or trans women. We all have to look as standard as possible.

Hugs
Linde

thats what im saying, i cant wear smaller clothes

 

[Deleted member X2]

on the issue of hairstyles and how to pick the one that suits I found this to be insightful, now while this is a feminine guide to face shapes and hairstyles it tells you what to avoid and by going against the grain and by correlating your face shape to the most appropriate hairstyle you know what to avoid and what will look the least feminine on your particular face shape. As for the walking advice, well, now I understand why I have been told that I walk/run like a girl, that's a plus I guess?