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So I did it, last night after posting here, I came out to my daughter and the response could not have been better. It was hard, I was in tears the whole time and kept apologizing to her as I felt like I was taking her dad from her, not sure if that is a normal thing or just me, but it was very cathartic. I did not realize until that moment how heavy the burden that carrying this inside of me was, just crazy to think about it. We cried a lot and she kept reassuring me that she loved me no matter what and was happy for me. It was hard to say the words to her, this is only the second time that I have and the first did not go down so well at all but the result was more than I hoped for as I had thought she would take the time to process the news but she was just pure acceptance with nothing but love in her heart for me, it was very moving. I told her that nothing was going to change right away and we have some other issues to get through right now but I just wanted her to know, to say the words out loud. It felt good.
 

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Congratulations on this big step Michelle! I think I went through half a box of tissues when I came out to my son! Your daughter wil now have a closer bond with you with both of you having shared innermost thoughts!

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Congratulations Michelle! I have two adult daughters that I came out to with a similar result.

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Mike
 

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Congratulations Michelle!! I came out to my daughter when she was 15 and it could not have gone better than what it did. She was very understanding and sympathetic. It for sure made us closer.
 

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Congratulations Michelle. I'm so happy for you. It was a big relief for me too that my kids excepted me for who I am. The fact is, they grew up with their father crossdressing and wearing dresses all their lives. So for me, their reaction was more like, "Well Ya..... So what's new".
 
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ty all for your kind words, they are appreciated. I know I picked and easy target as my daughter and I have always been close but we have grown more so in recent years as her adult personality emerges more every day and so I knew what the result of this would be, still so hard to say though. My mother came over today to visit and I just could not say the words even though I wanted to and so I still have a ways to go it seems but I am buoyed tremendously by this result.
 

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Sorry I didn't get to the thread sooner. I'm replying to your (@magic_michelle )beautiful shared moment of healing and confiding with your daughter because my daughter was the second person I came out to (first in the second attempt, more on that later). Did you feel, at any point, that you were afraid that you coming out to her was going to destroy all respect she had for you? I ask because in my little hints and eventual full coming out to my daughter, that was definitely going on in my mind.
My daughter didn't seem as expressively supportive as your description of yours, but she was "okay" with it. But, to even have a single soul hear me was helpful, especially in getting up the nerve to come out to her mother (my ex now).
 

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Beautiful post and congratulations to those who have had a great experience with their daughters through your process. This is a good inspiration for the time I will have to come out to my now teen daughter. Not sure how she will react, we are close but she's been through her fair share of drama after beating up cancer last year.
 

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Beautiful post and congratulations to those who have had a great experience with their daughters through your process. This is a good inspiration for the time I will have to come out to my now teen daughter. Not sure how she will react, we are close but she's been through her fair share of drama after beating up cancer last year.
Congratulations on her beating the cancer. Welcome to you. Glad you are here! Moni
 

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Beautiful post and congratulations to those who have had a great experience with their daughters through your process. This is a good inspiration for the time I will have to come out to my now teen daughter. Not sure how she will react, we are close but she's been through her fair share of drama after beating up cancer last year.

Welcome Sweetgirl, so good to see you post! My daughter was 38 when I came out to her, but her support was guaranteed as we are so close. I raised her as a single parent and we’ve always had a mother/daughter relationship, even to the point she would only trust me to look after her newborn babies.

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Hi Sweetgirl,

Welcome to the Refuge. Congratulations to your daughter to beating the cancer.

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Mike
 
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Sorry I didn't get to the thread sooner. I'm replying to your (@magic_michelle )beautiful shared moment of healing and confiding with your daughter because my daughter was the second person I came out to (first in the second attempt, more on that later). Did you feel, at any point, that you were afraid that you coming out to her was going to destroy all respect she had for you? I ask because in my little hints and eventual full coming out to my daughter, that was definitely going on in my mind.
My daughter didn't seem as expressively supportive as your description of yours, but she was "okay" with it. But, to even have a single soul hear me was helpful, especially in getting up the nerve to come out to her mother (my ex now).
I am supremely lucky with my child as they have a level of maturity and self awareness that is rare even in kids much older than them, they also came out to me as enby last week and so I think that they have a better understanding of the issue. What I was afraid of was taking their dad away from them but that was non issue from their perspective and this has actually drawn us closer than I ever thought we would be. It is hard to say how much of this attitude is theirs alone and how much comes from the way I raised them but either way I think that I just lucked out.
 
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