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Alice

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I chose Alice because of Christina Henry's book Alice.
My daughter bought me the book for Christmas in the year that I came out to my GP and got referred to Gender Services. In it the main character, Alice, is an overly tall woman who has to pretend to be a boy for her own safety. Helping Alice is a man called Hatcher whose real name is my deadname. Alice struggles to come to terms with being a magician asking herself many of the questions I asked myself when coming to terms that I was trans (unlike Alice, I always knew I was trans but knowing you are trans and coming to terms with it are not the same thing).

As for what is now my middle name but I debated making it my last name, Skye comes from the island in Scotland. I eventually decided to keep my surname because it makes things easier for my daughter at school and for no other reason. I changed my signature though so I don't use my surname in it and just the initial instead and other than official documentation, I don't use my surname. It is a reminder that my parents are not fully accepting of me... so I don't like using it.
 

CrackDown29

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I'm still looking for a name that matches me. Funny story, I grew up with two different first names because my parents couldn't agree on what name I should have. My mom one and got the legal first name but dad refused to have anyone I grew up with call me by that name. So I grew up by my second name, and it has been super frustrating figuring out when to use which in legal/professional environments. Plus they loaded me up with 5 (yes 5) middle names that sound french or german :sick:. (no offense to those peoples ofc!)

Long and short of it I've never fully clicked with my names but I'm still looking around. Collie came from the fact that I started a small channel on Youtube and that is a part of my pseudonym on there. Here's to hoping I will find something truly me down the line.
 

SJ_Linkey

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This was a very hard subject when I came out to my then Trans-boyfriend Miles and I was struggling to find the the right name and I didn't want it to have any reflection to my dead name. I wanted to start anew and start my journey with a name that I would feel wonderful being called at. I knew what my middle name would be cause I love Jane to be my middle name and I had asked Miles who has been so supportive towards me to ask would he be happy if I added his last name Brennan to my last name Dunn and he said yes it's fine and it was Miles who found the right name for me to be my first name being Sarah. Even though Miles and I are no longer together I still have his last name still with me cause it still gives me the source of strength when I have some hard times to face. So I had my legal name changed since September 2003 and I never hated it ever since.
 

Kenna

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Unlike many here I quite liked my masculine name of Ken (although not Kenneth which is on my birth certificate) and in order to make it easier on others, probably also myself, and to maintain initials I just went with Kenna, which also isn't really common, but not unknown and clearly recognised as feminine.
-Kenna
 

Linde

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I wanted to keep my intials and email, which are also identical to my son.
I went for the female version of my male name. My middle name is a female name I liked since Paul Anka had his hit Diana.
It was a simple and logic process for me, I never disliked my dead name nor did I dislike my former male self.
These days it does not bother me at all, if people from my past use my dead name or use the wrong pronouns. I simply don't care.

Hugs
Linde
 

Lexxi

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My thought process is a bit long to explain, but I've had a few people say they like it, so I'll say it again.

I wanted my name as far away from my old male name as possible. There is a little-used female version of my old name but like I said I wanted my new one very far from it. I didn't want anyone to be confused about me being female now. Don't get me wrong, my old male name is a good name and I have nothing against it, but it was never me.

So here's how my renaming went. My favorite letter of the alphabet is X so I knew I wanted an X name. I very quickly settled on Lexie. And when I say quickly it was literally about 10 minutes. I don't know if you remember your biology classes from high school or not, but most males are born with XY chromosomes and most girls are XX. Since I always felt I had been shorted an X in my chromosomes, I added an extra X to my new name. But Lexxie just didn't look as good to me, so I dropped the E and became Lexxi. (My Australian sister keeps that E in there though and I don't mind at all when she does.)

Okay so now I had Lexxi. I originally chose Alexandra as my formal name. For my middle name I just Googled "middle names that go well with Alexandra, and when I saw Danielle with it I fell in love!

After a year I changed my mind about my first name and went with Alexis instead. (It was easier to write. Also there used to be a person in my life that I didn't really care for and her name ended in dra too, so I didn't mind getting away from it for that reason too.)

When it came time to legally change my name, I asked a question here on this site about whether I should legally change it to Lexxi, or should I change it to Alexis. Nearly every single person said that it would be a lot more professional to have a more formal first name instead of a "nickname". So I went with Alexis Danielle and I have absolutely no regerts (old joke). haha

My new name change just became legal last Wednesday by the way. I couldn't be happier!!

So that's my long, drawn out story. :)
 

Loki Luci

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I can relate to a lot of you on the choosing a name. Before I even knew what trans-anything was, I had gotten into D&D when I was a young teen. I had gotten all "artsy" and tried to come up with a moniker to use at school that fit my state of mind. I guess I even did that as young 6-7 year-old, too, except it was normal sounding names, like Jay or Jake. By the time I was out on my own, most friends called me Loki (long before the Marvel Movies, mind you, but yes, it is because of the Norse God Loki).
So, names were like hats until the name Loki. For all of my daughter's life, that has been what I was called at home.
When I read the original myths and legends with the real Norse character, Loki, one tale stuck in my head with a strange fascination: the origin story of Sleipnir, Odhin's 8-legged horse that could go anywhere in the Universe. I'll spare everyone story time and give the Spark Notes version: Loki was asked to do something, ANYTHING to keep a giant from finishing a project on time so that the Aesir wouldn't have to pay up one of their goddesses as a contracted bride. So, Loki turns into a mare (yes, a female horse) and seduces the giant's working stallion away from his duties. Loki, as a deity, genderbends throughout Norse myth, btw. He goes as a She to a wedding, acting as a bridesmaid to a disguised Thor (bride), so that Thor can steal stuff back, for instance. In big Norse machismo, Loki was the queerest of them all, imo. So, there was a lot set up and I didn't consciously do that .
Ya, the rest of my name (like the Luci part), Lucifer was originally the name of the minor-god/angel that carried the torch needed to guide the souls wandering the night and to signal the arrival of the Goddess Aurora (the Dawn) (Their name mean "Light-bearer"; usually associated with the planet Venus when it is the Morning Star). This name spoke to me because of my desire to have a name connecting me to Venus (my fav planet) and it's similarity to a name I used for a character I loved in D&D, Luci (female Alterationist Mage, a person who does Change magic (like change your shape or turn lead into gold) for non-D&Ders).
Sorry that was soooo long. Where I got Loki Luci is not as straightforward to me as most of your name processes and I thought it needed some explanation. Thank you for bearing with! 🙏
 
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