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SkylerTheGenderfluid

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How did you do it? I started going by a shortened version of my dead name at first, but everyone just saw that as a nickname. I eventually changed to Skyler after a lot of consideration-- It means "scholar", which helps because I'm a real nerd, haha! I also liked all of the NN possibilities, & the gender-neutral feel of it. The biggest thing that really set it was the relations to Schuyler, as in ANgelica Schuyler, as in a women's rights leader. My original idea was Arlind nn Indie, but I asked for some of my family's honest opinions & they said they didn't like it. After that, my idea was to use Kia, & literally ON THE NIGHT I WAS GOING TO TELL EVERYONE, I realized how popular it was for girls now! So I waited around 3 months while I picked out Sky. Everyone seems to like the name (besides my dad, because there was apparently a cartoon character from around 55 years ago names that that he didn't like. He thinks it came from there. & he legit won't believe that the origins are Schuyler, & "It couldn't possibly just have been popularized by the cartoon!")
 

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Hmm it was like parents expecting a daughter for me. I really looked up for girls names, made a top10, threw out every name a friend of mine or a person I dislike has and in the end I chose the name that felt the most "natural" inside. I can't really tell you why Sophie sounded the best, but when I call myself with that name I feel like something calms inside. It's like "yes, this feels most fitting".
 

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I chose a name based on meaning. Katie means pure, and after a lifetime of living a lie I felt the name reflected my decision to stop hiding the truth. I still haven’t settled on a middle name, though.
 

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I wanted to keep the same initials. I was never given a middle name, just the letter H. I always liked Danica Patrick (my favorite race car driver), so I changed a couple letters at the end of my name and came up with Donica. It took a while to come up with my middle name, but once I did, the name seem to flow in harmony, so I kept my last name and the rest is history.
 

TonyaJanelle

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Like @Donica I wanted to keep my initials since I didn't have any name that I had an affinity for. I ruled out any name that was same as anyone I knew and liked Tonya best of all the rest. Of course once I started using it I ran across a couple others. At least they spelled it differently.
 

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I wanted a name that would keep my initials. Ideally, I would have liked to just feminize my male name. However, there isn't a feminine version of my old first name, so I went with one that was phonetically similar. My middle name is a feminine version of my old middle name. One nice benefit: I didn't have to re-learn my signature. The new one is almost the same as the old one, similar enough that a non-expert could tell it was the same person signing.

I did have a choice to make whether Kathy was going to be short for Katherine or Kathleen. I went with Kathleen because it is the Irish version of the name and I am Irish. It also got me brownie points with my mother-in-law. Her middle name was Kathleen.
 

Monica

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Unlike the folks above, I had no monogramed linen to try to keep the initials the same.:rolleyes: I wanted as far away from the old name as I could get. When I was like ten, I had a crush on this brown eyed little girl whose name was Monica. Always loved the name after that. The name Moni started as a transition name. It was unheard of so it was a good segway during transition, not too feminine. I like both versions, but people tend to pronounce Moni wrong, like "Moanie" instead of like "Bonnie" so many just switch to saying Monica. Oh, this might help you for a middle name! I had none, so I asked my coworkers for ideas. They put it in an app that identifies names that sound good with the other name. They came up with Hayden and I really liked it. Hope that helps.
 

TonyaJanelle

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had no monogramed linen
I had none of that either, but my computer user name at work is based on my initials and would not have changed so I'd have the constant reminder.
 

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I had none of that either, but my computer user name at work is based on my initials and would not have changed so I'd have the constant reminder.
Oh sure, through out some flimsy, extremely logical reason, why don't ya!
 

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I did not want to change my initials (they are the same my son has). My Jewish mother named all her kids (3) with nordic/Germanic names. Ingeborg, Ingrid and my old name. I wanted to honor her wish, and searched for female nordic names with the same first letter. Dietlind happens to be the more or less female version of my old Name. It is very common to makes it into the nickname Linde, and that is what I go by.

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Linde
 

TonyaJanelle

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Oh sure, through out some flimsy, extremely logical reason, why don't ya!
If I'd had a name that meant something I'd have learned to deal with it. I didn't, so why not make it easier.
 

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My sister in law named me 15 years ago as we were talking about babies and cooking, she said she just couldn’t relate to me as a male so she modified my male name to Allie. I kind of liked it, and over the years became used to it. I used that name in hundreds of trans fiction stories I wrote, so by the time it came to choosing a name, it was already done. I did choose my second name to retain the initials my daughter and I share.

When officially changing my name I had to sign so many documents, I was glad I didn’t really have to change my signature!

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Allie
 

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Back 20 years ago I went by Amy which is what most knew me as around town. I had chosen Amy because she was the most popular girl in high school and I had always wanted to be her. It never felt authentic to me though. I did have a brief (very brief) stint as Lisa after that before settling finally and for good on Emma. Basically the process went like this for me. We would write names on a white board, it they didn’t feel right they’d get erased, if they felt right they’d stay to see if it’s something I’d want long term. In the end it came down between Emily and Emma. It’s clear which won lol. So I had it changed legally and went through everything from birth certificate forward rewriting my life as Emma. As for my middle name which for most of my life I shared with my daughter, I chose to take my mother’s middle name as it flowed more naturally with Emma and I thought of it as a piece offering to my mother. Yeah, that didn’t work at all. I upset my daughter for a short time and my mother couldn’t care less. At the end of the day just chose a name that feels like your most comfortable pair of sweat pants.
 

SkylerTheGenderfluid

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Unlike the folks above, I had no monogramed linen to try to keep the initials the same.:rolleyes: I wanted as far away from the old name as I could get. When I was like ten, I had a crush on this brown eyed little girl whose name was Monica. Always loved the name after that. The name Moni started as a transition name. It was unheard of so it was a good segway during transition, not too feminine. I like both versions, but people tend to pronounce Moni wrong, like "Moanie" instead of like "Bonnie" so many just switch to saying Monica. Oh, this might help you for a middle name! I had none, so I asked my coworkers for ideas. They put it in an app that identifies names that sound good with the other name. They came up with Hayden and I really liked it. Hope that helps.
I thought that it was pronounced like Bonnie without the B.
 

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Don’t laugh. I’m still a newbie, and not sure about the climate here. I didn’t make up a name. I found it. Through months of conscious search through meditation, an yes, some medically ok’d edibles 😉, lol, discovered Julie Grant. She’s me. And no, I am not medicated, right now. Lol
 

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Don’t laugh. I’m still a newbie, and not sure about the climate here. I didn’t make up a name. I found it. Through months of conscious search through meditation, an yes, some medically ok’d edibles 😉, lol, discovered Julie Grant. She’s me. And no, I am not medicated, right now. Lol
I really like your name and it would have been on my short list!

Hugs,

Allie
 

TonyaJanelle

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Don’t laugh. I’m still a newbie, and not sure about the climate here. I didn’t make up a name. I found it. Through months of conscious search through meditation, an yes, some medically ok’d edibles 😉, lol, discovered Julie Grant. She’s me. And no, I am not medicated, right now. Lol
Doesn't matter how you got there as long as you're happy with it.
 

SkylerTheGenderfluid

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My first name came to me in a series of dreams in which I was called "Sarah". I picked my last name out of a phone book, since I hated my last name and was ready to get rid of it. My ex came up with my middle name. I liked it, and If it's not too sensitive of a topic

Take the B off and add the M.
That's what I meant. :)
 
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