Well that is the problem intersex people in the US have. Intersex in many European countries is considered to be a third gender option like other or divers. An intersex person in Germany can determine by themselves which of the 3 gender ID they want to have.
Her in the US I had to be diagnosed to be transsexual to get my surgery, and my ID changed. We are not officially existing as a individual gender in this country. We just have some biological abnormalities like any other person with a birth defect.
Just as a side line, there is no real intersex community in the US, there are some intersex people who are self declared advocates, and act like the spokespersons for the rest of us, who are not as noisy. It is mostly younger persons who still have enough fighting spirit in them.
One of the problems is that most health insurance plans do not pay for the rather expensive testing of people like I, and many of us don't even know that they are intersex, or don't know which exact syndromes they. For example for my case, to know exactly what I have in detail, a genetic test would have to be made, and that would cost me about $7000, and no insurance will cover the cost. Up until now I paid abut $2000 out of pocket to know about myself as much as I currently do. Most intersex persons can't even afford to spend that much. The result is that we might get the wrong medical treatment, or no treatment at all.
Being born intersex is still something that is hushed about like for a cleft lip or other disfiguring birth defects.
I can tell you, it sucked a lot growing up as an intersex kid/youth, because I looked clearly different that the other male kids, of who was supposed to be one.
I for one, am a very happy woman these days, because I finally have my chromosomes and my body and mind all in tune with each other, and I can live the life I should have lived all the time.
But I can speak only for myself, because every other intersex persons may feel different about their syndromes, and several, specifically the younger ones, fell pretty happy not to decide for one of the two genders, and continue to live in the middle between the two genders, while I dream of a life as a simple cis gender woman.
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Linde