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Am i the only one who doesn't intend to fully transition

Blayke

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I've looked but I can't find a thread in regards to this.
I can only find transitioning and non transitioning.
 
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Well my humble opinion is that there is no such thing as "fully transitioned" unless you are talking about the societal expectations that trans women and men have to undergo x,y or z surgeries or procedures in order to be accepted which is just garbage. If you are trans then you are trans and you are valid no matter what medical treatments you choose to have or do not choose to have. You cannot define gender based on bodies without policing bodies and you cannot police bodies without that being blatant misogyny and so there should never be any need for anyone to justify their gender identity through medical treatments or how they present or if you "pass" according to the cishet majority. If you choose to forgo taking certain steps seen as standard or par for the course then that is absolutely no ones business but your own and nothing that you should ever feel ashamed about or feel obliged to justify.
 

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Blayke, probably look at the non transitionong forum to see those who only intend to go part or none of the way. I was determined never to transition outside being Allie fully at home. Even after starting HRT, I was trying to find strategies to minimise effects while controlling my dysphoria. I was living my perfect life, and didn’t want transition to ruin it, but in the end I didn’t have choice.

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Its more that I'm transitioning to present as female but I have no intentions of have any surgeries except for maybe my voice.
I'm genderfluid ranging more towards the female end but I like my penis and intend to keep it.
 
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Its more that I'm transitioning to present as female but I have no intentions of have any surgeries except for maybe my voice.
I'm genderfluid ranging more towards the female end but I like my penis and intend to keep it.
and that is absolutely fine, there is no shame in that and as I said your genitalia has nothing to do with your gender. You are valid just the way that you are. When you have achieved your own personal transition goals then you are "fully transitioned" if that is how you want to view it but I still stand by my statement that there is no such thing as fully transitioned out side of your own personal goals
 

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@Blayke My original intent was to take HRT, but not transition at a social level. I didn't think it would feminize me nearly as much as it has. I'm not sure what I was really thinking, since GCS was at the top of my priority list, and you can't really get GCS without living a year as your identified gender. Maybe I could have said I was nonbinary, but that would have been a lie.

Anyway, I couldn't do the partial transition thing because of HRT. I need HRT to be emotionally stable, and HRT turned my appearance almost completely to that of a woman. I can't pretend to be a guy or even androgynous anymore. HRT kind of forced me into the full transition camp. And that may be why there are so few partial transitioners.
 

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I dont know maybe im just feeling this way because a large chunk of the last few meetings has been focused on gcs.
I know its a massive part of alot of your transitions and its an amazing and wonderful milestone but I just kinda feel like I don't belong
 

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I dont know maybe im just feeling this way because a large chunk of the last few meetings has been focused on gcs.
I know its a massive part of alot of your transitions and its an amazing and wonderful milestone but I just kinda feel like I don't belong
It is a little funny for me too, coming from the opposite direction, if it makes you feel better xD. I think part of the reason why the last few have been focused on that is because Allie and Kenna were approaching and/or completed various surgeries (I think Kenna's was facial tho). Like you say it's a big deal for everybody involved so that's why there's a lot of chatter and congratulating going around :) Probably after that whirlwind of excitement the topics will go back to being more variegated.
 

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@Blayke I hope my response didn't intensify that feeling of alienation. GCS is just something that I have always felt a need for. I don't consider it a must have for all trans feminine people. I'm not dogmatic about it in any way. Most of the trans feminine people I know haven't had GCS, and quite a few never plan on it.
 

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Its more that I'm transitioning to present as female but I have no intentions of have any surgeries except for maybe my voice.
I'm genderfluid ranging more towards the female end but I like my penis and intend to keep it.
Transition goes as far as you want it. If this is where you get and it's what you want, I'd say you're fully transitioned.
 

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Blayke, for many years of my life I had no gender feeling at all, I was just there. My body supported this not beloning by not being male or female either. Later in my life this changed some, when my body decided to more feminize itself. At that point I started to be more or less genderfluid. And that changed over about 10 years to bring me to the happy woman I am these days.
I don't know if my change falls officially under transition (Kenna feels I detransitioned in reality), but it shows that all of us are flowing with our developments, and that is the reason why nobody can tell each individual of us, if we do our transition right otpr wrong.
It is our body and our life, and only we decide what feels right or wrong.

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Blayke, just be who you are. Our conversations go all over the place to help each other. I feel like an outsider sometimes, but this is a great bunch of people. Talking to others here has helped me to learn more about myself.

At one point I would have been in the non transition, with GCS only on a wish list, but then it became a necessity. A return of cancer required LHRH to shut down my hormones. That got me hooked! Even my therapist seemed surprised at how much better I feel without hormones. I never want testosterone again. I have to waita little while longer, but I am now looking forward to estrogen.

We are all different, but we will support what ever you need as well. Whether you are done with transition or need more, it is totally up to you. You are part of our family!

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I'd be happy to talk about how you see your goals Blayke. I'd also be happy to hear from Collie. Different perspectives need to be brought out or the meetings get stale. Most importantly, it is important to you. Just pipe up and say, "I would like to talk about X, how about it?"
 
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