This is something that was posted a long time ago on another forum. I forgot who posted it but copied it down as I thought it was good at the time. I’ll reproduce it here in its entirety.
In my ill-informed opinion you aren’t a real woman because (top 10 reasons):
1) You don’t have a uterus
Lot’s of women don’t. What, you think that’s what makes a woman? That’s weird. So women who have hysterectomies are not women? It sounds like your definitionof a woman is confused with ‘baby-making factory’. That’s a prime slice of misogyny right there.
2) You have XY chromosomes
Do I? I haven’t checked. I presume I do, but I might not. Frankly, who cares? Some women are born with a vagina and uterus and all that but are XY. Some are born with XX, some dudes are born with a penis and have XXY, some people are born intersex. Chromosomal sex as a determiner of womanhood is problematic at best. Are you going to gene test everybody you meet before using their correct pronoun? It sounds like you are looking for excuses to gatekeep who is and isn’t female.
3) You’ve never had a period
True. Thank God! Still, there are plenty of lucky women who either don’t bleed, or don’t cramp, or both. Are they not women because they are lucky enough to not suffer? Try again.
4) You’ve got a penis.
So you presume. Maybe I have, maybe I haven’t. None of your damn business, and it wouldn’t make a lick of difference either way because you are conflating physical sex with gender. Do you go around lifting the skirts of every girl you meet? What a charmer!
5) You didn’t have universally female experiences growing up.
Didn’t I? Let’s break that down. Firstly, your definition of womanhood is that a woman is defined by a certain narrow set of formative experiences. What about women from other times and cultures? What about women who had a different upbringing than yours? Are they not women? Your arbitrary list probably excludes a lot of women that you know. Secondly, you are presuming that I didn’t have those universal experiences. Whatever your arbitrary list of experiences is, I think you’d be surprised.
6) You had male privilege.
Yep. It was delicious. I’m giving it all up. In an ideal world, we’d all have those many invisible privileges that men have. As a guy, I wasn't even aware of half the privileges I had. I’m sure I’ll discover a lot more as I lose them
7) You just want to invade women’s spaces, maybe to spy on women
Yep, you caught me. That’s been my plan all along. All those years of hiding and pain, followed by expensive surgeries, just so I can gatecrash your tea party and use the women’s bathroom. Guilty. That’s totally what it’s about. As a trans woman; I’m far more likely to be sexually assaulted in a bathroom than a cis woman, far more likely to face violence and bigotry, and will likely have a far harder time of things post-transition. But it’s all going to be tooootaly worth it if I can maybe one day catch a glimpse of another woman’s boob in the bathroom. Ya got me.
8) You weren’t ‘born a woman’, so you don’t get to claim you are one now... I’m just keeping it real.
I get it. Your an asshole. You weren’t born an adult, so you don’t get to claim to be one now.
9) I just guy-level don’t like trans people so I want to claim you aren’t a woman to make your life miserable.
You hate me, I get it. Nothing I say will change your mind about me, so I’m not going to try. Kindly F off and die die die in a fire. Thank you/
10) I’m a trans person deeply in the closet and am working hard to maintain my disguise so I’m going to parrot one of the above objections.
Oh honey, Sweetheart, I see you.
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