- Dec 10, 2019
- Gender Pronouns
- She, Her, Hers, Herself
- Gender Identity
I realized, it's not them staring at me, it's me staring at them because I am the one who expected them to stare
Lol, I did this on my first outing as Katie back in February. I had just had my hair and makeup done at a salon on the fourth floor of a University of Iowa Hospital building. I was so excited about how I looked as I walked out of the salon. I pushed the button for the elevator and waited patiently. The door opened and there was this older lady in a wheelchair in the elevator. I froze like a deer in the headlights. My jubilation at how I looked suddenly turned to fear that maybe I still didn't pass. The old lady got impatient and said, "Well, get in deary. I don't have all day". I laugh now, but at the moment I was so relieved that she didn't call me a sir, or mister, or something masculine. Usually older women call other women or girls deary. The ride down to the first floor was uneventful and I made it to my car and left to go have some lunch. But I still remember just standing there staring at the old lady in the wheelchair.