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Linde

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After I developed a positive feeling for men, I decided to enter the dating world with guys. I met a pretty nice looking and sounding man on a dating app, and he lives relatively close to me. We wrote back and forth, and I really started to like him. He told me that he was bi, which is fine with me, because I am also bi, and can understand this.
We decided to meet in one of the finest restaurant in the area, because he said he wants to treat me really nice.
I decked out as fine as I could for a normal evening, I put even some makeup on,
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and set out to meet him. He was very nice, opened the doors for me, helped me with my chair, simply a perfect gentleman. We talked about this and that, and had a good time.
Later in the evening we started to talk a bit more about personal likes and dislikes, and did not spare our love life preferences either. He told me that he likes to have sexual encounters and dates with men, and that his former wife was not excited about this. I told him that this does not sound really enchanting to me either, yes, I am bi, but I prefer one lover at a time, and appreciate the same of my lover.
He did not say much to this, but came out with a real big hammer, he said that he and a male partner could have sex in front of me for me to enjoy the view, and after this the tow could have some fun with me!!!!!!!!
I was simply horrified!!! I pictured him pulling out of the other guys rear end, to simply and nonchalant entering me!

Needles to say that this was the end of my date, at least did I get a nice dinner out of it!

After I had a few more online interactions with other men, I am starting to get the feeling to give up on men again, and concentrate my feelings back to females.


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I'm sorry that happened Linde. There is a lot of that going around these days. I would say, stay open to men though. You know you don't have to commit to anyone or anything. But you never know when Mr. Right may sweep you off your feet and treat you like a Queen.
 

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I'm sorry that happened Linde. There is a lot of that going around these days. I would say, stay open to men though. You know you don't have to commit to anyone or anything. But you never know when Mr. Right may sweep you off your feet and treat you like a Queen.
Yes Donica, I will not shut out men entirely, but I will not go out and try to find one. If the right one comes by, I will see how it goes. But I am still way more attracted to females, and will be more on the look-out for the right woman.
and in the meantime, I have my BOS friend!


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Sorry you had a bad experience Linde. I would love to have a close friend, or even a partner, but my plan is to join activity groups like you find in Meetup, that way I can meet lots of people and if a relationship starts, it will be whith someone I have known.

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Sorry you had a bad experience Linde. I would love to have a close friend, or even a partner, but my plan is to join activity groups like you find in Meetup, that way I can meet lots of people and if a relationship starts, it will be whith someone I have known.

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Allie, I am a member in several Meetup Groups, but this has not resulted in any close relationship yet. I had a brief relation with a butch lesbian the year before last, but Covid destroyed that one pretty much.
I think one of the problems is age. Most "good" men of the age group are married or in a relation (the same applies for appropriate women). All the men I have encountered so far, seem to have some kind of "flaw" that does not trigger my fancy. I have had contacts with about 30 men now, and none of them was what I would want to be my partner. I know several cis women in the age bracket, who have a similar experience.
I date as a cis woman, because I do not want to attract fetishists and chasers.

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Linde, I would not join the activity groups purely to find a partner, but to enrich my life by being active outside my home. I would meet lots of new people, and get to know them as we did things in the group, and hopefully a relationship might develop. It is hard for senior women to find men, as there are simply less avaialble, so friendships would be my goal!

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@ Allie, I have no shortage in friends, because I am relatively active socially, and I have Amber and her partner living with me. But there is still this emptiness to not have a person one is really close with.
I am not looking for men specifically, I would prefer a woman anytime, but I really want a person to fil this emptiness. I am alone for more than 20 years now, and that starts to get old.

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