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A Feminine male vs Transgender

NancyBalik

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Bottom line: None of us have an easy path. But you know what? I still love feeling feminine and I do not want to ever lose my “womanly” feeling and “just be a guy.” And even though I don’t think my wife will ever understand “it,” she seems to be increasingly accepting it (me).
 

Katie

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I have a friend that I have been getting to know a little better over the last week. She had spent many years living as a gay man, with an undeniably feminine style and demeanor. She just came out this week and decided to transition.

I've been thinking a lot the last few days about the whole "feminine man" idea. A lot of cisgender people will make the same argument for FTM people, only asking "why can't you just be a masculine woman?". They seem to think a masculine woman and a feminine man are the same thing, that mannerisms, behavior, or clothing are all that's involved.

I'm a pretty masculine lady. If you knew me in person, you'd definitely notice it. I have the body of woman, I wear women's clothing, and I've been told I'm pretty, but I have had both men and women comment on my personality being masculine. Yet, I don't feel connected with manhood or being a man at all. I'm a masculine woman, a tomboy, or whatever other word would describe a woman whose personality and behavior skews more toward the masculine. I am very definitely a woman, but I don't have any ambitions to try to force my personality to be more feminine.

My cousin's daughter is bisexual with a stronger leaning toward women, is also very masculine (more so than I, in my opinion), but has zero desire to live as a man and doesn't identify as one. She is quite happy being a masculine woman.

My friend, on the other hand, tried living as a feminine man. She did it for many years. And has just started to figure out that being a man, whether masculine or feminine, wasn't who she is or what she needed.

We all have different ways in which we live out that womanhood or manhood (or enbyhood, just made a new word), but we are who we are no matter how others interpret us.
 

Donica

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I understand the concept, feminine male. I don't know where I fall, either feminine male, masculine female, or feminine trans woman. I strive to be a feminine transitioned female. It can be exhausting, especially if we are constantly met with opposition.
 
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