- Nov 21, 2020
- Gender Pronouns
- He, Him, His, Himself
- Gender Identity
Aw, thanks for the supportive words. ANd I can't imagine being alone for so long. Even though I've been in a lot of isolating situations, it's taken a very long time for me to start being okay with long periods of time by myself, so respect to developing self-reliance early on.Wow Collie! There's so much there! It's so different to my experience I'm not sure I understand it all. My mother left my abusive and occasionally very violent father when 6 month's pregnant with me and I've grown up with just her and me, then a boy's school, boarding from year 7. Consequently I've had to learn to be OK being alone and to be very self-reliant. It would be so wonderful to have supportive siblings! The complexities of your relationships with your parents is beyond me; not that I need to understand any of the detail - just that you're a survivor. Well done!
And your friend so seriously attacked for wearing a mask! That level of lunacy is astounding. It worries me.
Regarding the complexities with my parents, there's a term called "enmeshment" I think, which means when parents/adults pull younger people into scenraios/responsibilities that are really out of their age range. In abusive situations, the minor latches onto it because it gives them a sense of attention/worth. My dad did that for sure with us kids, especially the girls, and especially poor Maya.... I think in some smaller, more insidious ways mom did too.
The anti-mask attack is just insane! Thank god or whatever higher power she's going to pull through and won't need speech therapy or anything from the jaw fracture. The biggest delay is she can't be on a respirator because theyre all reserved for covid patients, so breathing through the injured lung is a little painful. But it looks like she'll pull through...